fusion324 Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 My girlfriend of 7 months recently told me that she is still in love with me, but since I'm her first real boyfriend (i'm 22, shes 23) and she can see herself being with me for the long haul, that shes just scared because she has nothing to compare our relationship to and doesnt want to always worry what if. I'm confident we'll end up back together after she gets her head cleared but how do I cope while I give her her time? I'm very much in love with her so its really hard for me. Any advice would be appreciated.
wintercs Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 Hey man sorry to hear that you're going through a tough time. There's no easy advice for this situation, but the best advice is to give her the space that she's requested. This is going to be very hard to do, as I am currently experiencing a similar situation, but you need to back off of things for a while. You've probably seen NC posted all over the place which means No Contact. Don't call. Don't text. Don't email. Don't snail mail. Don't send flowers. Nothing. It sounds like she needs to get her head clear of everything before things can move forward. She'll never be able to clear her head if you keep in touch. Hope this helps. If you provide further details I can give you my two cents, for what their worth. Best of luck and hopefully everything will straighten out in time.
superconductor Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 "Taking a break" = "I don't want to be with you anymore but I haven't got the courage to tell you to your face." It sucks, dude, but it's reality, unfortunately. Go full NC on her, take some time to heal, and move on with your life.
Mollyanna Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 "Taking a break" = "I don't want to be with you anymore but I haven't got the courage to tell you to your face." It sucks, dude, but it's reality, unfortunately. Go full NC on her, take some time to heal, and move on with your life. I don't know the whole story, but I will slightly disagree with superconductor. I believe "taking a break" can really mean they just need some space if perhaps they were too totally wrapped up in each others lives. Maybe she felt she lost her identity, because she was an extension of him. I have been there in past relationships and nothing scared the guy more. I am not saying superconductor is wrong in this situation because I am not in it, but maybe just maybe she just needs to work some things out. Were you too clingy??
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