xLOVExLIKExWINTERx Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 ok, yeh, my bf and i have been going out since march/april, and he was really sweet. always called me on his break, and called me all the thime during class just because he wanted to talk to me. but then he got a new job. and joined a metal band. his new job is being a stripper. im fine with it, only if he doesnt do anything with the girls. but he has been partying ALOT sine he got the new job nad joined the band. hes been getting drunk alot, getting high, and doing things with girls. he does things like letting girls take bodyshots off of him, mud restling with girls with tops off. and all different things like that. he tells me that he wakes up in beds with girls sometimes. sometimes wearing clothes, sometimes not. he tells me he loves me, and that he cant wait untill we can share our life together. but when i talk to him about his wild party stunts, he tells me its not a big deal. and then when i say " oh, so i can act that way at parties?" he says " no you cant. guys will take advantage of you and you could get pregnate or an std" im sick and tired of his bull-crap. i wnat him to just stop flirting with all of these girls. it makes me feel like im nothing more than a minor footnote in his life. what should i do? please, i need help!!!! thanx
Sally00 Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 Holy damn. What an ASS. You really need to talk to him about the things that he does. He doesn't really love you if he's doing things with other girls. He's full of it. You deserve so much better than that. If my boyfriend did that stuff, I would be pissed. I would let him know how I feel and if he didn't do anything about it, I would break up with him. Your guy sure doesn't sound like boyfriend material... He doesn't love you if he's doing things like that.
serial_monogamist Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 You called him "evil". That already says a lot. "Evil" is a word I reserve for married men who try to start affairs with me.
lil_angel Posted July 26, 2006 Posted July 26, 2006 what do you do about it?? i think you just listed about 10 good reasons to break up with him!
magichands Posted July 26, 2006 Posted July 26, 2006 Waking up naked in another girl's bed is harmless fun. Or is it? R-E-S-P-E-C-T
Volverte_a_ver Posted August 7, 2006 Posted August 7, 2006 Yikes! Dump him! Maybe I'm more jealous of a person than you are, but if my boyfriend told me he woke up with a girl in bed with no clothes on, I would hang up the phone and never speak to him again!
jgrandst Posted August 12, 2006 Posted August 12, 2006 I'm sorry, but if a guy really cares about a girl he remains monogomous. He may screw up once, but it isnt a repetitive action. Everyone makes a mistake, but he doesnt seem like he is making "a" mistake, he seems like he is taking advantage of your feelings, and using you. I say a guy like that is a prick that just needs to be let known that he cant get away with stuff like that with someone. I would suggest a break-up.
Chinook Posted August 12, 2006 Posted August 12, 2006 I spot a cake eater. Keep feeding him cake if you must. But as magic says R-E-S-P-E-C-T for yourself is the important thing to bear in mind here. Oh and whilst we're here... get yourself to an STD clinic and get checked. If he "wakes up in bed with girls" and is "sometimes clothed, sometimes not"... I'd be worried about what else he can 'remember' about these escapades.
Adunaphel Posted August 12, 2006 Posted August 12, 2006 Dump him. And get checked for STDs, as Chinook suggested. If your bf has picked his job and lifestyle over you, then pick a nice and sweet guy who'd respect you over him and let him date someone in his line of work. (If you were a guy and your gf was working as a stripper and prostitute, I'd give you the very same advice.)
justagirliegirl Posted August 12, 2006 Posted August 12, 2006 If you think he is not f-ing these girls, you are being very naive. This shouldn't take that much thought what to do. Kick him to the curb and go get checked for STDs.
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