Guest Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 Not sure if this is the right place but anyway.... I just want to see what you people have to say, but I'm going to follow my heart. I'm a 15 year old male, and I need some advice about a girl. We have been friends for maybe 2 or 3 years now, but at this party last night, I asked her to dance and we had a good time. Today, I realized that I really like her, but I don't know if I should ask her out because that might ruin our friendship if she says no. Would it be better if I call her, or talk on messenger? Or, I could just wait until I see her again... Tomorrow she is going to Ireland for a week, so I was wondering if I should talk to her before she goes or after she comes back. Another thing, should I start the conversation by small talking, or just striaght up asking her out? Thanks
lovestruck234 Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 Ah young love!! Well, if I were this girl, I would like you to talk to me. Whether is on messenger or on the phone (face to face is proabbly a preference) but anyway, whatever you feel comfortable with then, yeah sure, talk to her. But definitely do NOT go straight into "I like you etc" conversation. Like you said, stick with the small talk for now until you feel it's the right time to bust open with it... There really isn't any need to rush into things. If I were you, I would talk to her before she left for Ireland. Flirt, get to know her a bit more... BUT then again, don't rush into it cos sometimes you don't think about what you're saying and it's usually a baabbling mess. Do it when your feeling confident and you know you have a fair bit of time to chat. All in all, don't keep obsessing over it, cos the more you do, the more you'll get yourself into a tizzy mess. Just be cool, do what feels right, be yourself, and I'm sure if you were yourself on the night of that party, and she was having fun with you, then she'll sure be keen to hang out with you again sometime!! Good luck!!
Guest Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 Ah young love!! Well, if I were this girl, I would like you to talk to me. Whether is on messenger or on the phone (face to face is proabbly a preference) but anyway, whatever you feel comfortable with then, yeah sure, talk to her. But definitely do NOT go straight into "I like you etc" conversation. Like you said, stick with the small talk for now until you feel it's the right time to bust open with it... There really isn't any need to rush into things. If I were you, I would talk to her before she left for Ireland. Flirt, get to know her a bit more... BUT then again, don't rush into it cos sometimes you don't think about what you're saying and it's usually a baabbling mess. Do it when your feeling confident and you know you have a fair bit of time to chat. All in all, don't keep obsessing over it, cos the more you do, the more you'll get yourself into a tizzy mess. Just be cool, do what feels right, be yourself, and I'm sure if you were yourself on the night of that party, and she was having fun with you, then she'll sure be keen to hang out with you again sometime!! Good luck!! Thanks for the advice. Unfortunatly, she never went online or answered her phone today, so I'll just wait until she comes back. What are some good places to go on a date at 15 years old anyway? Neither of us drink coffee, and we can't see a movie everytime we go out lol. I don't have a job anymore, so I can't spend that much money on anything fancy. Any suggestions would be appreciated. Thanks
lovestruck234 Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 What are some good places to go on a date at 15 years old anyway? Well, what are your's and her interests?? My bf took me to motocross races for our first, well, I guess you could call it a "date" cos we both ride dirt bikes and it was so much fun. We spent the whole day there just eating pies, getting sunburnt and watching the races!! Ha, good ol' times! Ummm....but the only place I can offer a suggestion to seeing as I don't really know what you're into is probably somewhere different like...just jumping on the train and going somewhere. Doesn't matter where it is but just hang out. Get up to no good. I always have the best fun when I'm doing stuff that I'm not supposed to!! Ha ha ha! I don't know really. I'm still young so I'm not going to offer the "walk along the beach" and "sit in the park" suggestions (ugh, um...BORING!!) Just take her somewhere unusual. Um...I don't know what you have in your area but even just going for a walk around your neighbourhood. Anyway, hope I was helpful! Lol
Guest Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 Well, what are your's and her interests?? My bf took me to motocross races for our first, well, I guess you could call it a "date" cos we both ride dirt bikes and it was so much fun. We spent the whole day there just eating pies, getting sunburnt and watching the races!! Ha, good ol' times! Ummm....but the only place I can offer a suggestion to seeing as I don't really know what you're into is probably somewhere different like...just jumping on the train and going somewhere. Doesn't matter where it is but just hang out. Get up to no good. I always have the best fun when I'm doing stuff that I'm not supposed to!! Ha ha ha! I don't know really. I'm still young so I'm not going to offer the "walk along the beach" and "sit in the park" suggestions (ugh, um...BORING!!) Just take her somewhere unusual. Um...I don't know what you have in your area but even just going for a walk around your neighbourhood. Anyway, hope I was helpful! Lol Yes, you have been very, very helpful, thank you. We both play baseball/softball, so I was thinking of maybe taking the train to Shea Stadium(Where the Mets play) or something like that.
Darkwall Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 I agree with everything lovestruck has said thus far so I won't repeat. But, I'll add... It's probably equally awkward right now for both of you. You probably don't even know it but she's probably thinking about you in Ireland. Just be patient and take it slow. She'll think you're absolutely wonderful if you continue to treat her well and continue to show her attention. But, not too much... you know.. in her face etc. TAKE IT SLOW. How about going for Ice cream? It's summer time and there's plenty to do. You can go biking or swimming or anything you both might enjoy. Ask her what types of outdoor activities she likes to do in the summer. Good topic for conversation on the phone. Talk about silly funny things you did as kids. HINT... it feels less awkward when you know you're on a date. Just ask if she would like to go for a bike ride... it's so beautiful outside. PS. be sure to ask all about her vacation, either on the phone or when you're out biking. That'l pass the time. Ask lots of questions about Ireland. KEEP US POSTED
lovestruck234 Posted July 26, 2006 Posted July 26, 2006 PS. be sure to ask all about her vacation, either on the phone or when you're out biking. That'l pass the time. Ask lots of questions about Ireland. This is critical. Girls love a guy who seems really interested in them. This will definitely win some brownie points!!
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