Spitkicker Posted July 23, 2006 Posted July 23, 2006 It has been about 7 months since I broke up with my X of 4 years. It's been a crazy up and DOWN ride... There honestly have been more downs than anything else... I know that I need to move forward and that it will be the BEST thing that has ever happened to me. I have been doing a good job of going out, meeting new people, and just having a great time. Just today though.. I just have been hit HARD with a spell of depression and X-gf memories. I haven't been this sad about her in a long time and I don't even know why I'm like this because I don't want to get back with her whatsoever. I guess I'm just feeling really lonely right now.. with no SO to comfort me. I just wanted to post to see if anyone gone through anything like this before.
norajane Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 Getting over a break-up when you'd been seeing each other for a long time is a long process. It's not a constant move forward and away from the pain; sometimes you'll get a fresh wave of sadness or hurt. Trust that it will be longer and longer between each episode until one day you realize that you don't feel any more pain. Good luck to you.
johan Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 I'm about 3 months ahead of you. My relationship was 3-1/2 years. I can confirm what norajane said, in my case. As recently as a couple weeks ago I was hit with a wave of sadness, regret, and love for her. And I was still holding onto the idea that sooner or later she'd come to her senses and try to renew our relationship. All of those feelings come and go, somewhat regularly, of varying intensity depending what it was that caused me to start yearning for her. For me, when I'm feeling bummed about it, it's hard to feel sure that the feelings will pass and I'll feel positive again. So far they have though. On the other hand, I'm not prone to expectations for a bright shiny future. So when I feel good, it's not ecstasy. It's just getting through my day feeling average and not dwelling on things too much. Hang in there.
magichands Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 I haven't been this sad about her in a long time and I don't even know why I'm like this because I don't want to get back with her whatsoever. Sure you do. You just have to give it time, try not to dwell, and make pain your friend in the meantime.
JCD Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 We tend to sugar coat our memories and forget about the bad times we had. So resurrect some of those bad times and you should feel bit better afterwards. Maybe even hurl for thinking you had fond memories of her. The other thing is to either get new SO or get a hobby that will keep your mind off her.
Author Spitkicker Posted July 24, 2006 Author Posted July 24, 2006 Thanks you guys I really appreciate all the support. Today has been a really rough one, but i think it's about to pass. I just need a good nights rest to keep me correct for the beginning of the work week. Thanks again!
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