Sergeant of Marines Posted July 23, 2006 Posted July 23, 2006 I have been having the feeling that my gf and I should break up for some time now. My question is this, would you break up when your at a bad moment i.e. fight or when your at an OK point in the relationship i.e. talking and most everything is good. I think I should do it now since there is not other problems to cloud the situation and just end it without the other problems. Also, I feel bad because she just got promoted, her B-Day is coming up and she enrolled in college recently. Her mother is flying cross country to come stay at our house and spend time with her, she will most likely lose her job and have to move bad cross country with her parents as well as lose the $$ her parents have paid for her school. I have explained that I dont things are working but she seems to think we will push through this and things will get better. I do love her but I dont see us getting married & having kids together which is what she wants.
Guest Posted July 23, 2006 Posted July 23, 2006 If you honestly know that you don't want to be with her in the long term, you are being unfair to her every day that you drag this out. There is never a good time to break up with someone, it will hurt her no matter what. But if you really care about her, let her go now. The sooner she gets through it, the sooner she can go on with her life and be able to find someone who can give her the things that she wants.
Sally00 Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 Waiting around is getting you AND her nowhere. You can't keep leading her on like this. No time is gonna be the PERFECT time to break up with her.
Walk Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 Hey Sgt, I saw your post from a while back, and you had said then that you were losing interest in being with her. If she's not "the one" for you, then don't delay the inevitable. You'll break her heart, but she'll heal. It's far better to do it soon and cleanly, then let it drag on. If classes haven't started, then she can get her money refunded for everything. (tuition and books) She might lose an enrollment fee, but that's not much. And her parents can use their ticket for her to fly back home. I think its admirable that you don't want to cause this girl pain or financial loss. Few men would concern themselves with how the other would be effected by their decision. Do your best to make the transistion for her as painfree as possible, but that is about all you can do. She deserves to be with someone who wants to marry and have kids with her. And you deserve to find that person you would want to spend your life with. And I've always found that the non-drama break ups were the easiest to heal from. We weren't fighting and no one had "messed up". It was just two people who didn't share the same life path anymore. We discussed it in detail, and parted on good terms. Those for me were easier to recover from then messy fighting and bad words.
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