dominsane Posted July 23, 2006 Posted July 23, 2006 So...My fiance of almost a year(it would've been three weeks until our anniversary)...decided just to break things off...completely...while I was 1000 miles away, visiting my father. And everything was just so sudden, I never even saw it coming. He kept telling me he has some problems that he needed to take care of, and that he didn't think that he could be in a relationship to be able to take care of them. He tells me that he still loves me, but he keeps hanging around with all of these other girls too... I am really not over him..It's only been two weeks...and I don't think I feel any better than I did when he broke up with me. Does anyone have any suggestions of what I could do? I mean, I have less hours at work so that we could see each other more, and now I have all this time with which I have nothing to do. I mean, I'll make plans...with my friends when they have time...but it's not the same. I just don't know what to do. Does anyone have any advice on what I could do to get over him? Or maybe even how to get him back?
jorgeajorge73 Posted July 23, 2006 Posted July 23, 2006 Now that you have all this time. You need to focus on things that you put off when you were with your ex. It seems that he doesn't want you in the picture for some reason. And that reason is going to haunt you. You need to get to the bottom of things and truly find out why he broke it off. You need closure in order to move on. Excuses are easy to make, but there's something behind every excuse. You mentioned that he has female friends that he hangs around with. When you are engaged, you cut that off and focus on the person that you are going to marry. Perhaps he's realizing all the fun that he's going to be missing out on when he marry's you. Perhaps that's why he broke it off. I'm 33 and I broke it off with my ex of 31 because all she did was go out, drink, and hook up with other guys. She was not willing to committ so I let her go. How old is he and is he mature for his age... You on the other hand, you need to enjoy life and not make him a factor. Life is short, enjoy it, do so with dignity...As for me, I've had NC with my ex for nearly three months and coping the best I can. I work two jobs and keep myself occupied during my evenings off by hanging out in public places where the atmosphere is enjoying....
bextreme1 Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 The best advice I can give you is find someone to talk to about it. I know it's cliche but it really does work. At least you can get things off your chest. If you need any further help, go see a therapist. You must have a friend or relative that you feel comfortable confiding in. Only time will heal your wounds but talking helps you to get through it. I know, I've done it many times and it will hurt for a while but in the end it will work out. There is no one on this earth that is more important than you. You will find someone else and be glad that things did not work out this time. There is nothing worse than trying to keep a bad relationship going. At least you found out before you got married. What a mess that would have been.
Author dominsane Posted July 26, 2006 Author Posted July 26, 2006 thanks a bunch, you guys... he finally told me why he broke up with me... and i don't really know how to feel... im sad, hurt & pissed off, because he lied about why he left... but at least I haven't cried...or..done anything else... hmm... i think i may start NC now... seems like a good idea... but i just have to pack up all the stuff he gave me...and..maybe store it somewhere...i dunno... i'm just gonna take it day by day... but thanks for the advice... ^-^
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