Trimmer Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 But at that time...saying that she's alright meant that I'd have to admit that there's something wrong with me. I disagree. You do have to admit that a person picked her over you, at that moment, in that context, (and it's happened in the past and it will happen again in the future...) but that doesn't necessarily equate to the conclusion that something is wrong with you...
lindya Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 This morning I realized that I shouldn't be mad at her, but him. And yes, putting her down isn't right and I was just being jealous. But at that time...saying that she's alright meant that I'd have to admit that there's something wrong with me. I disagree double! First of all, logically there isn't any real reason to be mad at him either, unless you were already involved in a relationship with him. The sad fact is that there are times when you can feel as if you've really hit it off with somebody...then right out of the blue they'll wander off with someone else who's hinted (or outright stated) that they're immediately available for sex. It pays to train yourself to be philosophical about the choices other people make - even if you don't think they're the best ones. This girl isn't better than you, but the other night she got something that you didn't. Why? The offer of sex, maybe...a more confident and assertive approach, a shared sense of humour, the promise of some illicit drugs back at her place. There could be all sorts of reasons for him going off with her. In situations like this, it's rarely worth analysing the reasons. Just focus on retaining your poise and crossing him off your dance card.
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