jorgeajorge73 Posted July 23, 2006 Posted July 23, 2006 It's been almost three months since I broke up with my girlfriend. On and off I think about her, but I only think about the bad things I want to say to her because of the pain that she put me through. I completely cut all communication between her and her family. It's been somewhat difficult to adjust because I have no family in this area, her family embraced me and I've lost that, and it really hurt. Why is it that those who are nice, that do all they can do for a relationship get hurt. You know, it seems to me that women prefer *******s than true gentlemen. Perhaps it just me. Then again, I hear many women complain that my man is just an *******. So what gives? I've started talking to her ex best friend. We have had lunch and dinner twice. We talk about our past relationship experience. Her ex husband was a low life and cheated on her as well. My ex can be mentioned on that same line as well. We also have intellectual conversations. Yeah, it makes me wonder if it will lead to anything. If it did, I know that my ex would be extremely upset, then again, I could care less what she thinks. So how do I cope? I keep busy. I'm working two jobs, hang around positive friends, and work out as well. And I'm also planning trips for myself. When you break up with someone, life only seems to begin...
heartbroken1234 Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 You say all you think about is wanting to say bad things to her... WHY?! I realize your hurting and she really took a big chunk of your life with her when she dumped you considering her family and all that, but don't let her get to you. If you are the one wanting NC why even think of talking to her? It'll just eventually get better and you just have to believe it in your heart that it will get better... You need to abolish any thoughts of her you have all together. I know it's hard, but the little things matter. Put anything that reminds your of her away, hide it, get rid of it, anything, just don't dwell upon all of it. I mean, what's meant to be will be, so you could end up back together some day, but right now, it's not going to happen, so you just need to realize that, as much as it hurts... Instead of thinking bout mean things to say to her, think of things like getting over her and getting her outta your mind completely... You have to want to get better and believe that you will indeed get better. Time heals all wounds. I realize she might have been your true love, as I think the girl that just dumped me for another dude was, but think of it like this.... True love in my opinion takes 2 people. If someone isn't going to love you back like you love them, then they don't deserve you dude... Well, I hope this might have helped you...
batesal Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 So how do I cope? I keep busy. I'm working two jobs, hang around positive friends, and work out as well. And I'm also planning trips for myself. When you break up with someone, life only seems to begin... This is true because what you want to do is do things either to show her that you can life without her, or because you don't want to think about having your heart broken. I have been broken up for 7 months now, and I have had my months of crying, stress, depression and low self-esteem. Although I have brief moments of it, I have gotten ALOT better. Basically, you can have NC and COPE. Yes having the feelings you have and wanting to say negative things to her is normal. Feelings, about someone will pass. All I can say is get into a habit and stick to it. And stick to NC, even if that means that you will never talk to her again.
MissJ Posted July 26, 2006 Posted July 26, 2006 I totally agree. I have been with my BF for 10 years. And put everything I had into it and put up with all his BS for 10 years for him to just turn around and Leave me, once he felt better about himself??? SERIOUSLY??? Even though it doesnt help now....Like my friends are telling me .... remember that there is SOMEONE out there that is looking for someone like YOU!!! Someone who would love your ALL and would want to give you their ALL. And believe it or not THEY WILL ACTUALLY APPRECIATE IT!!! They say Nice people finish last... I beleive it now. We will be ok, and you will find someone who LOVES you for YOU!!!!! STAY STRONG (funny hearing me say all this....)
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