Charliegone Posted July 23, 2006 Posted July 23, 2006 Currently I'm going out with this girl from work and well frankly I do not know how to really handle it. Should I just handle it like in any other situation( I mean dating situation?) Or should I treat it differently? Currently I try to limit the time I spend with her at work. What I mean by that is that I try to be professional and not be so...how would I put it...luvy duby. Its mainly during lunch (when we got out) or after work when we talk, etc etc.
Tony T Posted July 23, 2006 Posted July 23, 2006 I think you're handling it very well. It's not really professional to be lubby dubby in a work environment. Just conduct your relationship in a normal fashion but keep the sweetsie stuff away from the workplace. You should also discuss with her how you will conduct yourselves if the relationship goes south. Seeing an ex at work can sometimes be very uncomfortable. Not that anything will happen but if it does be sure that fact doesn't affect your work. Good jobs are hard to come by.
tearful_soul22 Posted July 23, 2006 Posted July 23, 2006 Keeping it professional and personal is very challenging..and normally considered a taboo for romance. I suggest you try to find other means/location to do your luvy duby stuff before you two get in trouble. Better to be safe, than sorry. Take care and good luck!
JCD Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 If she dumps you and you still see her often at work then that will bring up your feelings for her and you will be uncomfortable around her and your job efficiency will go down the toilet. Even worse will happen if you see her with another coworker guy kissing, etc. Then you might get jealous and bit crazy. I would recommend you don't date coworkers but if you're in control of yourself then you might do ok after the breakup. There's always a chance that later on in life you two might split up and end up working together, ugghhh.
mariJane Posted July 31, 2006 Posted July 31, 2006 personally, NEVER AGAIN WILL I DATE SOMEONE AT WORK!!!!!!!! the only way this will ever work i feel is if you all have a strong VERY strong foundation, you know eo! and you guys communicate alot!!
timonel Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 I had relationships with my colleague. When the first time I saw her I felt that she was the girl of my dreams. Our relationships started in a couple of years after that moment, when our company arranged a team building training. The company helped us to break ice and stuff... Both of us managed to separate work and relationships during the working time. But one day we broke though I kept loving her. Since then every time she was flirting with other men in the office I got jealous and totally crazy. I could hardly work so I had to change job and missed some career opportunities. Several months of torture passed before I found the new job. Now I think I shouldn't have started those relationships because I've got more suffering than pleasure from them.
Author Charliegone Posted August 20, 2006 Author Posted August 20, 2006 Well, guys and gals its been about a month since I posted this and frankly I believe our relationship has gotten nowhere. I think I will not persue this any further and just look elsewhere. I guess I see some of the obvious signs...like she doesn't answer her phone, etc etc...oh well..time to move on I guess. Friends we can remain other than that...well.
quietintrovertgirl Posted August 23, 2006 Posted August 23, 2006 (Biting nails) I'm about to ask a co-worker out for lunch.Should i be scared????
LostinLxxx Posted August 24, 2006 Posted August 24, 2006 Charliegone - sorry to hear that things didn't work out; but at least you feel that the two of you can remain friends. quietintrovertgirl - Ooh, I feel for you. I, like you (judging from your username), can be quite shy, so I know what a step this will be for you. I also find myself irrevocably attracted to a coworker and have not managed to draw up the courage to even really talk to him, let alone ask him out to lunch, so I admire your courage, I truly do. Good luck! I think being nervous is normal, but if your situation is anything like mine, doing nothing and wondering how the other person feels about you (looking for subtle signs, going back and forth on whether or not he may be interested in you) can be frustrating. I would say that as long as you have weighed the pros and cons -- what happens if he says yes? How will the fact that he's a coworker affect how things play out? What happens if he says no? Will you be okay with that? Will things be awkward? -- and have decided that asking him out for lunch is what you want to do, there's nothing left to do but ask... and be sure to provide an update one way or the other. ;-)
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