anger

[susanl]

How do you handle anger when you are so mad you don't know what to do? It sounds like a simple question but when someone tells a lie about you, and you know it is a lie--I am so mad I don't know what to do--I want to hit something, have a drink , yell and scream--someone help to tell me how to cope--this can't be good.....

[Tony T]

The telling of a lie about you did not make you angry...anger was simply the reaction that you decided upon. There are others who might get depressed and others who would simply be disappointed in the person who told the lie.

 

There are some great books on handling anger and I suggest you read a few of them. Generally, people who snap at lots of things or who have an exaggerated response like this have issues that go way back as far as childhood. Besides reading a book, you may need counselling to uncover the root cause of your anger problem.

 

There is no payoff for anger. Google "anger heart disease" and you will learn that people who snap quickly are at much higher risk for high blood pressure and heart disease. A lie told about you is not worth dying for.

[susanl]

thanks you are right my response was anger--people could get depressed or other things i chose to get extremely mad that has done me no good except to give me a huge headache

[superconductor]

Those who recognize the lie for what it is are the ones that matter. Those who believe the lie don't matter.

[susanl]

that doesn't help deal with how mad and angry i am with someone that i thougtht was in my life believe a lie

[Outcast]

Be grateful that you've found out what kind of person that person is and move on. You're mad because you wish it wasn't true but it is true and there's not a thing you can do about it except dump the person and move on. It's a waste of energy being mad.

[susanl]

You are so right I just need to learn and believe that in my heart