t0m Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 hello, I'd really appriciate any advice you have on my current situation and I apologise in advance for any spelling mistakes. I've been seeing a girl for 8 months I love her but constantly find our relationship hitting problems. She has two children already, I don't mind the children and, to be fair, they are both great kids (5 year old boy and 13 year old girl, both very entertaining). Before this relationship I was single for about 10 yearsafter my first ever girlfriend cheated on me alot and left me a bit crushed. I had some near relationships in that period but nothing where i felt I was in love. Currently i feel like she wants us to fall into an "instant family" type scenario, but I am still in a position where I really am a novice and find myself daunted by the whole family situation. sometimes its fine but I still like my own space, she wants me to give up everything in favour of her and her kids. thats the basic plot but there are some other elements. Over my 10 year single period I was very used to my own company and find it hard to give that up. She was quite seriously ill for a while but was treated with some medication that made her, well, nasty. she cut me to shreds on every level. During that period I split up with her and was convinced to get back to gether after that whole incident based on tha fact she was ill. At the smae time I can't help but think that some of the stuff she said was genuine . I've went to a bouys only school when I was young, which i hated. I'm pretty scared that this has left me totally screwed as far as keeping a lid on any feelings of jealousy that I have. I missed out on all the teenage flirting and messing around that sets you up for a stable relationships in the future. thats that. sorry If I've posted this in the wrong forum but to be honest thats because I'm a bit drunk. thats also my excuse for the spelling mistakes. Thanks T
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