its been 7 months... im still waiting for her... should i?

[lonely_steve]

ive been with this girl for the past 2 years (not including these 7 months)... we were so great 2gether n i really loved her so damn much n i still do... but somewhere in those 2 years, during 1 of her breaks from me, i betrayed her... though only for 1 measly day... the worst part is... i was consumed with guilt n i told her about it... i told her the truth... that was 7 months ago...she left... i knew by telling her she would leave me but i couldnt find it in my heart 2 keep it from her... ive cried day n night for the past 7 months... i still am... she told me not 2 wait... that was a couple of months ago... now on the other hand... she wont let me go... i know she loves me... she probably knows i love her but she just cant get over what happend... even after 7 months... i try 2 hide my love for her by having fun n it works for a couple of days n weeks until she calls... every time i hear her voice or even think of her... tears fall... my heart shatters... i just dont know what to say right now... i just need help... please...

[trebon]

I am totally there with you. Mine has only been 2 months so far, but she cheated on me and I am still waiting. Some people cant forgive betrayal and that is simply why it is over, and I think that is all that has happened here, but in trying to keep a friendship she is hurting you.

 

The dreaded NC comes to mind. Having time out to forget is good but as long as there is contact she could drop you inot dispair at any moment. Cut off all communication and go cold turkey. If you dont that voice will haunt you. That is why it has taken so long for you. I hit rock botom after a week like you are having (but i dont have the social network to go out with) and i am now on anti depressants. Literally everyone has told me to let go completely as it is the only way to get better.I havent found the strength to just yet but i am getting there. Its a rip the plaster off situation. One sharp tug and the pain that follows is the best way to remove it.

 

Good luck

[J G]

Hi there buddy,

 

We are in the same boat. Its been seven months for me too.

 

SHE broke up with me when i demanded why she was going out with some one else. She had been betraying me. AND she broke up with me !

 

The worst thing is - I M STILL WAITING !!

 

The best thing to do is NC. Period. That is the only thing that's gonna help.

 

 

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[iqb07]

Lonley-steve..

 

For these past 7 months have u both been tlaking even if its off and on talking? How you guys sleept or had any emional bonding between these 7 months... does she tell you that she loves you but she cant be with u cuase she cant live with what you did...?

 

 

answer these for me and ill try my best to give u my advice.

 

take care

[bextreme1]

If it's been 7 months, time to move on. If she calls you again and you really want to see where you stand, tell her that if she wants to continue then she should come back to you. If she says no or I can't now, then tell her you do not want to talk to her anymore and don't take her calls. There is caller ID for a reason. Use it. You need to stick to your guns and then you can move on. I know it takes time, but it will pass. Just don't have any contact with her. At this point you need to press the issue and move on one way or the other.

[lonely_steve]

iqb07...

 

all of the above... she tells me she loves me n that she dosent want me 2 go but she's afraid of getting hurt again n that she also feels selfish that she keeps me waiting... though i'd give anything 2 b with her.. im just so confused..

[batesal]

Steve,

 

I too have been without my ex for seven months now. I know how bad you feel, sometimes you feel good about things, sometimes you can't stop thinkig about her. I understand. It hurts to do things, go places, or watch movies. Anyways, it has been seven months. There can only be 2 things, One she is with someone else and she has left you alone, or Two she wants to be single for a while. YEAH, she may tell you that she still cares and loves you, but she DOESN'T love you the same way you love her. I am very sorry to say that but I know. I tried everything in the book to show her that I loved her, that whatever it was that I had did I was sorry about, and wanted to stay with her. But it didn't work, and what is worse, she told me after I did a ****load of things for her, that she didn't want to see or talk to me anymore. That was a dagger in my heart.

 

As much as it will hurt, to stop talking to her, and if you already are not talking to her, you need to move on with your life. She may not want you right now. Don't tourte yourself waiting for her to come around. You have only ONE life to live. You also have MUCH love to give. You need to begin to do things for you and only you. Don't do anything for her, or her friends. NOTHING. Don't be her friend, listen to her on the phone, hang out with her, NOTHING. Either she will come back or she won't.

 

One more thing. Why did you cheat on her? I understand that it was a one-time thing, but I was cheated on, 6 times by the same guy. I know that being cheated on really hurts, but some people can forgive, and some won't. I don't know your ex, but I beleive that she is still hurting from your cheating. I am sorry Steve, but sometimes life is not forgiving.

 

My personal advice to you is to leave her alone. PERIOD. But that is me.

[Brittanyjean06]

I've been in Nc for a year now. Considering I had this relationship since I was 14( now 18 ) I know I'm still bound to have my bad days. I am waiting for that change in life that really takes me somewhere else where I can truely heal. It's still always on my mind. How can it not be when you love someone and after 3 years get out of your life and in with someone else.

[lonely_steve]

thanks batesal... i dot know y i betrayed her... though at the time she gave me 1 of her breaks... n my ex called me up... after 4 years... i only betrayed her 4 a day.... n i was the 1 who told her about it... i know it was stupid of me 2 tell her but even more coz i cheated... she told me that i should have just hid it from her... my heart just hurts so much... guilt, sorrow, so many things plague me...