Love2share Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 I've been dating this guy for over 6 months. I've met a lot of his friends. So far, all of them have been women. And none of them like me. He said they don't like me because they think I'm stuck up. That's strange they all feel the same way about me because none of the women are friends. I doubt they all know each other. I met them all individually, by chance. It's like, he intruduces me when we just happen to see one of them out somewhere. And he gets a lot of phone calls and text messages. He will simply say, "Oh that's my friend Cindy." Should I try to spend more time with his friends so they know I'm not stuck up? Or should he make them like me? And if they never like me, how will that affect my relationship with him? It seems a little weird that he doesn't have any guy friends to hang out with and do guy things. He hangs out with these women at places where couples hang out (dinner, movies, lounges, ect.). I am secure with myself and I'm trying to keep things positive with him. But this is bothering me that he has people who are close to him who don't want to be close to me.
norajane Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 They probably don't like you because he is spending a lot of time with you...and spending less time with them. And because he hasn't 'formally' introduced you to them, but by chance...they think it's you who is stuck up and doesn't want to spend time with them, when he's the one who hasn't bothered to plan an evening for you and he and Cindy to hang out and get to know each other. Since they don't know you well, all they know is how he's acting and what he's telling them about you. As for the guy friends, what kind of guy is he? Does he like sports and beer and mud-wrestling and burping, or is he more the metro-sexual type who prefers jazz and theater and fine dining? If he doesn't like to do 'guy stuff' that probably explains why he hangs out with women. OR, he's a player. You know him best.
Cupcake Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 How do you know these women don't like you? How much time have you really spent with them? I would be worried that my BF has a lot of female friends because it is quite possible that those women could be "friends with benefits." A relationship with you has put a halt on his dealings with them. Therefore, they are jealous of you. But maybe you really are stuck up. If so, then those women have a right to hate you. The important thing is how your BF feels about you. If he doesn't think you're stuck up, then that's all that matters.
Author Love2share Posted July 22, 2006 Author Posted July 22, 2006 I realized one girl didn't like me when she and my BF were together having a conversation. He was waiting for me to join him at the bar. She worked there as a waitress. When I arrived, she looked me up and down and frowned. He laughed and told her to be nice. The entire evening, she served us. She kept accidently splashing food and drinks on me. Then she comped my BF's meal, but she didn't comp mine. He paid for mine. But she made it clear that she only takes care of her friends. He is her friend. Not me. Later, I asked my BF about her behavior and he just said she's hard to get along with. The last time Cindy called, she wanted to hook up with him. He said no because he was with me. I suggested that we all go out together and if Cindy had any other friends, she should invite them too. My BF was like "Nooooo way. That will never happen." That's when he told me that Cindy didn't like me because she thinks I'm stuck up. I haven't ever met Cindy. She has only seen me from a distance at a party. My BF pointed her out to me and I'm sure she saw us. He talked to her alone that night. But when he offered to introduce us, she had an excuse and told him she'd rather meet me another time. Every since then, she hasn't liked me. Is he a player....I don't know. He is flirtatious, I assume. But he never flirts with other women when he's with me. He likes sports and guy stuff. I just never hear him talk about his guy friends. The guys never call him. Only women. And when he's with me, he always tells them no, or that he will call them back later.
nips5050 Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 The Stuck Up thing might just be how you come across when people first meet you. Almost all of my friends thought I was a bitch when they first met me but once they got to know me, they thought completely differently. It's just the way I came across at first. Get to know them, I'm sure they'll think differently. First impressions are not always best! Oh, and it sounds like Cindy has a thing for your BF. She's probably just jealous of you!!!
Brittanyjean06 Posted July 23, 2006 Posted July 23, 2006 I'm sure your not stuck up at all! Or even come across that way. People will judge what you wear and how you look. And if you hold your self together people sometimes think your stuck up. I hate that because It makes you want to proove to them your not ya know?? Well each time you have seen cindy have you smiled and said hey whatsup ! Or did you just look at her with a smurk? If you came across friendly than who cares if you she doesn't like you..who wants me to be friends with someone who is judge mental?? I hate when people assume I am stuck up, I'm like haha if you only new... Their loss right?
livingalie Posted July 23, 2006 Posted July 23, 2006 Maybe this guy just wants to start a catfight over himself? Cause I doubt EVERY ONE of his friends would say the same unless he brought up that idea of you being "stuck up" himself and they just agreed.
nips5050 Posted July 23, 2006 Posted July 23, 2006 Maybe this guy just wants to start a catfight over himself? Cause I doubt EVERY ONE of his friends would say the same unless he brought up that idea of you being "stuck up" himself and they just agreed. OMG I had a guy do that to me...invited me to his house for a party knowing that this girl would be there and knowing I'd get jealous. In fact, when I called him before I came over when he was answering the phone before he said hello I overheard him say, "you guys wanna see a catfight tonite" so when I got there and the 'girl' he wanted me to fight was there, I told her what he said and we attacked him instead. hahaha backfired!!!!
JamesM Posted July 23, 2006 Posted July 23, 2006 A guy who has only women friends who think you are stuck up and don't want to meet you? Maybe there is more to it. As said earlier, I am inclined to believe these friends may have been more in the past or want to be more than friends in the future. Or maybe you are a "friend" also. Have you heard of any guy friends? Has he volunteered to introduce you to them? Something seems fishy here.
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