waitingforlove Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 Hi everyone, My ex broke up with me a little less than five months ago. Actually, about two weeks ago, he even suggested for us not to contact one another anymore. I was devastated for a LONG time ... and actually, even last week, I was SO CLOSE to feeling like my life had come to an end. Of course I wouldn't kill myself, but I was feeling like I couldn't move on with my life ... my future was doomed ..... THEN, surprisingly, when ONE thought came into my mind and started working on me, the pain just went away magically! I don't know how this even happened .... but I'm feeling SO MUCH better indeed today! That thought was: "The greatest thing one can give to someone he/she loves is FREEDOM. He had the right to come into my life at one time, and I am grateful that he had chosen to do so. Likewise, today, he also has the right to leave, and I respect that." I know, for months, I've heard a lot of people trying to tell me the same thing in different wordings, like "let go," "give him back to himself," but .... it really did take me a LONG time to come to realize this myself, and all of a sudden I feel a lot better. I think one very important thing is for us as individuals to feel self-sufficent and self-loved REGARDLESS of whether there's somebody else who wants to give us "additional love." If we already feel worthy and confident to begin with, then the love from someone else is just a "bonus" to make our lives even better, but not something to fill the gaps in our hearts. When I was in the relationship, I made the mistake by unconsciously or consciously losing myself, totally feeling emotionally dependent on him to love me, and THAT's why it hit me so hard when he broke up with me. But today I think it's true that "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger." Hang in there, everyone!! Remember that you're worth a lot; you're a prize, DON'T make the mistake I made and make yourself a doormat. Let the person go. Perhaps, some day, he/she will freely come back into your life one way or the other. And if that doesn't happen, by the time you realize it's not happening, probably you won't even care anymore! Take care!!
Clouseau Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 That is a very nice little thought and it's cheered me up! Thanks!
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