rick812 Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 A girl friend of mine set me up with one of her friends. We initially met as a group, and we were mutually interested in each other. We then went on our first date, and it could not have gone more smoothly. The conversation, the attraction, the food were all perfect. We then went to a club. While on the dance floor, she pulled me to her and we began aggresively making out. She said that she even forgot there were others around (good sign?). There was obviously chemestry between the two of us. I then took her home. We again made out for a while and then I went home. What I found out from our mutual friend is that my date had just broken up with her boyfriend of five years. The day after our date, he showed up at her job. The following saturday, we were supposed to hang out and she cancelled. I have not spoken to her since. Our only communication is by text. My date told our friend that she has not gotten back with her ex. My question is: The date went so well, and there was obviously something there. What happened? It seems she is trying to dodge me by text messaging me.
Blackfrost Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 My question is: The date went so well, and there was obviously something there. What happened? It seems she is trying to dodge me by text messaging me. Her X showing up, probably screwed her up emotionally for a bit. I'd lay low and give her a bit of time to recover. She'll return to you when she's ready.
PoisonMelody Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 Yeah sometimes after getting out of a long relationship, it's confusing to try dating again. Especially when the ex shows up again. The fact that she is still keeping contact is probably a good sign. But she is probably confused about what she wants. She might still be hung up on her ex a little bit. She might be on the rebound...and just wanted to get out there again and have a good time with someone new. She might not be ready to start actually dating again seriously. This might be the case, and even though it's extremely hard, try not to take it too personally (this coming from a girl that takes everything personally!) What do your texts consist of? If you haven't already, text her & tell her that you enjoyed your time together and you'd love to get to know each other better, if she would like to. I'd say give her a little more time...but if she doesn't seem to want to meet up again after giving her a little time, tell her you respect that and to get in touch if she changes her mind. I doubt she was playing you or anything, just confused and unsure how to act. But don't prolong it too long...you can't wait forever...you might just have to chalk it up as a loss and move on.
Author rick812 Posted July 23, 2006 Author Posted July 23, 2006 Yeah, it just seems that keeping contact via texting is more comfortatable for her right now. It does maintain some contact between the two of us for anything possibly in the future.
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