Sally00 Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 I'm always worried about my boyfriend, I realized... He says he thinks he has a hernia on his nutsack but won't get it checked out because his uncle got a hernia and is always in pain because of what the doctor did to him. Poked around, etc. I don't know exactly. And apparently what they did hurt him. He's thinking about selling his plasma twice a week again once school starts. I told him I didn't like that because if they keep poking him in the same vein over and over for a long time, the vein can collapse. And he NEVER puts on sunscreen when he's out in the sun for long periods of time. I tell him about skin cancer and all that. He always says he's never gonna get that. How the hell does he know that? This annoys the hell outta me and I tell him that. He says he will only go to the doctor if he feels like he has to. I got mad at him tonight about this. I tell him I'm worried about him. I also said he's just thinking about himself... not worried about me. We were talking about the future and I was like, "Oh you'll never go to the doctor and I won't have someone to grow old with because you'll die young and 'happy'." He messes around saying, "You'll find some new husband." Our ideas of 'serious illnesses/injuries' conflict. We love each other so much... that's why I worry about him and our future. I know he's not just thinking about himself... but I don't know... I said he's so damn stubborn. I even cried a little after he left. Am I being too weird about this? Help...
clandestinidad Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 You're not being weird about it if you're his mother....or grandmother
Author Sally00 Posted July 22, 2006 Author Posted July 22, 2006 You're not being weird about it if you're his mother....or grandmother Hey... this is my future husband we're talking about here. Someone I want to spend the rest of my life with. I don't want him dying on me... He means too much to me. Geez
clandestinidad Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 I was bein silly with ya....I understand that you want him to be healthy and everything. Its always been a big fear of mine that my SO would die. I hope that you dont mention these types of things very frequently, though. It might get a little overbearing to him. Sometimes things that we think are helpful are REALLY irritating to guys. Anyway, your concerns make sense but most guys like to be independent with their health issues....probably because their mothers hovered over them so much. Picture a mother trying to fix her young sons hair, or help him blow his nose, or fix his clothes...and he's fighting and trying to get away from her, and yells 'MOOOMMM, STOP IT!!!'.....they havent liked stuff like that for many many years.
Author Sally00 Posted July 22, 2006 Author Posted July 22, 2006 I was bein silly with ya....I understand that you want him to be healthy and everything. Its always been a big fear of mine that my SO would die. I hope that you dont mention these types of things very frequently, though. It might get a little overbearing to him. Sometimes things that we think are helpful are REALLY irritating to guys. I only mention it when HE does. He even brought up the plasma selling while we were on the topic. He doesn't get upset when I tell him how I feel about these things. He usually pretends like he doesn't hear me and just tells me he'll only go to the doctor when he feels like he has to. But what he doesn't know is that it could be getting worse without him even knowing. And that hurts me. His attitude REALLY irritates ME.
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