BatteredByLove Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 I know this is stupid.... and I know this is retarded... but my ex is currently dating another guy, they've been giong out for about a week, how can I get her out of my head? I've been going out w/ my friends a lot to clear her from my head, and yes, I do have fun when I go out, but everytime I get home, she just pops right back into my head, how can I get her out?
Tony T Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 Don't even try to get her out of you head...as a matter of fact, make it a point to think of her as much as possible. When you think of her, change her image in your mind to that of a pile of dung. If you associate her with dung, you will no longer think of her. Meanwhile, don't worry. There are so many women out there you can love with all your heart, in time your ex won't even be a tiny blip on your radar. Remember, when you think of her face...think of dung...and smell it to. It won't take you long to rid this entire thought from your mind. Nobody likes thinking of dung.
burning 4 revenge Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 I have the same problem I PM'd another poster on this board, because I saw her(my x-funny i still use the pronoun my) and she wouldn't take me back, not even now that the guy she left me for is in re-hab and they're over. I cried so hard that I vomited. I just needed to talk to someone. It isn't easy to be a human being, to have human needs and human desires. There's really nothing you can do, nothing we can do, rejection is just part of life. F*cking Charles Darwin, I hate that guy. P.S. Do you ever still think of the scent of her wetness?
trebon Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 Its clear the thought of her moving on is eating at you but it has only been a week, it is still raw in your mind. You will wake up one day and you will have an epiphany, it may be a week, maybe a month, maybe more but you will be healing slowy all htis time even if you dont realise it. In the mean time try and find things to do at home, I write letters to myself and to her (obviously they will never see the light of day!), I sing my heart out and take late night drives and enjoy the peacefulness of the empty roads. Little things that you can use to focus yourself like this eat up time you could spend wallowing and give you a constructive output, I am in the process of doing this as we speak and i really can feel the weight starting to shift. Yesterday I didnt cry, for the first time in 2months. In the mean time Keep going out, keep busy and vent when you need to. You are lucky to have friedns to go out with, I lost everyone when she went and I am totally on my own but you are on the right track and you always have friends here to help when we can. Good Luck
Author BatteredByLove Posted July 22, 2006 Author Posted July 22, 2006 Don't even try to get her out of you head...as a matter of fact, make it a point to think of her as much as possible. When you think of her, change her image in your mind to that of a pile of dung. If you associate her with dung, you will no longer think of her. Meanwhile, don't worry. There are so many women out there you can love with all your heart, in time your ex won't even be a tiny blip on your radar. Remember, when you think of her face...think of dung...and smell it to. It won't take you long to rid this entire thought from your mind. Nobody likes thinking of dung. Thanks Tony T, I’ve read a whole bunch of your posts before, they really have helped me right after she broke up with me. It was four months after we did break up, and yes, I’ll try to associate her with dung, or even better, look at her negative aspects. Someone on this forum told me that. Write a whole bunch of their negative aspects on a sheet of paper and post it on the fridge, it’s just like what you said Tony [FONT=Wingdings]J[/FONT], Thanks. I have the same problem I PM'd another poster on this board, because I saw her(my x-funny i still use the pronoun my) and she wouldn't take me back, not even now that the guy she left me for is in re-hab and they're over. I cried so hard that I vomited. I just needed to talk to someone. It isn't easy to be a human being, to have human needs and human desires. There's really nothing you can do, nothing we can do, rejection is just part of life. F*cking Charles Darwin, I hate that guy. P.S. Do you ever still think of the scent of her wetness? Yea, burning 4 revenge, she dated this guy for a week so far, and it was four months after we broke up, not like she went jumping to another guy. LS is the best place I’ve found so far, so many people with the same issues come together and talk, sometimes that’s the best medicine, let it out. I’m sorry for your situation, but know that you’re not alone, [FONT=Wingdings]J[/FONT],I have cried nights after nights, but not so hard that I vomited. I want her out of my head so badly, and I know that she’ll come out sooner or later, it’s just that for the time being right now… it’s a living hell. Heh, you probably know that feeling too. P.S. As for the scent of her wetness, she and I, we never had a sexual relationship, but it was a year and a half. Its clear the thought of her moving on is eating at you but it has only been a week, it is still raw in your mind. You will wake up one day and you will have an epiphany, it may be a week, maybe a month, maybe more but you will be healing slowy all htis time even if you dont realise it. In the mean time try and find things to do at home, I write letters to myself and to her (obviously they will never see the light of day!), I sing my heart out and take late night drives and enjoy the peacefulness of the empty roads. Little things that you can use to focus yourself like this eat up time you could spend wallowing and give you a constructive output, I am in the process of doing this as we speak and i really can feel the weight starting to shift. Yesterday I didnt cry, for the first time in 2months. In the mean time Keep going out, keep busy and vent when you need to. You are lucky to have friedns to go out with, I lost everyone when she went and I am totally on my own but you are on the right track and you always have friends here to help when we can. Good Luck Yeah, the idea is still raw to my head Trebon. I admit I have made progress since our breakup 4 months ago, but when I found out she was dating someone(she told me) a week ago, I was back at square 1. I have written letters to her, and it does help you vent, and after a while I stopped, because I realized that writing letters to her is only a waste of my time, she’s not gonna read it, she doesn’t care. I still sometimes write letters to myself to see how the world goes on around me, now that Trebon, is a helpful thing. Yes, late night driving on the empty road is very soothing actually, you just relax and feel calm and comfortable, well that’s what I feel. I have also been doing lotsa stuff to keep my mind off of her. I finally packed all of her stuff to me in a box and stored it someplace safe today, that helped a lot. So far, I have been doing everything I can possibly think of, from working out to going out to going to school to going to work, everything, just keeping myself busy…. Bad thing is… no school… no work… for the weekends…. Crap lol. Don’t worry man, there are new friends everywhere that can help you along the way, especially those on LS, I’m here with you every step of the way Trebon, we’re going down the same path.
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