Outcast Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 Everyone is saying HE's the whore for cheating on his wife. Exactly! And you don't need to hang with whores
NightsDarkRose Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 ARGGHHH i kno hes a pervy lech,,,its just hard to remember that cause hes so good looking....but he is......and i dont need to get myself involved with that. i have to stop thinking with my hormones cause its not worth it. and now im really disturbed because on my end i might find him attractive...but on his end it comes off as really lecherous and perverted [especially with his daughter oh god0
Outcast Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 You can't let your groin rule your life. True for women as well as men. Your groin is about biology - all it wants is for you to make new people. It doesn't care about your feelings. And it won't care if your heart gets broken.
whichwayisup Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 he got caught once before,...and she stayed with him. i guess because she loves him..and since i dont, i have the chance to walk away more or less unscathed if i dont sleep with him, where shes in in for the long haul. and yeah he may a dick, but i dont want to be one with him... which is whats been stopping me so far...its only when he kisses me that common sense goes out the window...so im just gonna have to avoid that... Then he has a history of cheating. And he's lucky his wife is giving him another chance...Yet he's blowing it with you. Big time! STOP kissing him. He isn't yours to have. You know this and you know it's wrong. So, show yourself some self respect, maturity and end whatever it is that is going on. Can you comment on the "what if" situation I posted previously? That what if it was YOUR father fooling around with a 19 year old. How you would feel if he did that? Think outside of the box, and not just what will make you feel good and happy.
NightsDarkRose Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 no your right, your just being honest. i appreciate all the feedback tho, its all good advice, even if its not so pretty
NightsDarkRose Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 u kno its actually really funny that u brought that up, cause when i first saw his daughter and i hadnt kissed him for a couple of weeks, my first thought was " what if i was friends with her and then it would be not some hot guy at work, but my friends DAD hitting on me..." and it became so much more creepy. and my dad sucks anyway.
whichwayisup Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 I just don't want to see you get into a huge mess and be full of regret. You're a smart girl, you know what is what. Don't listen to the inner urges, no long term good can come of this. You have NO idea what pain you'll be causing yourself, let alone being partner in crime with him while he hurts his wife and daughter. I don't mean to sound mean, but I do have to try my best to open your eyes and prevent you from doing some serious damage.
whichwayisup Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 u kno its actually really funny that u brought that up, cause when i first saw his daughter and i hadnt kissed him for a couple of weeks, my first thought was " what if i was friends with her and then it would be not some hot guy at work, but my friends DAD hitting on me..." and it became so much more creepy. and my dad sucks anyway. Good, then remember that the next time you get the urge to kiss him. And tell him NO if he tries to kiss you. Whether or not your dad sucks or not, I'm sure it would still be upsetting to know if he was kissing a girl close to your age. I'm sure you would be angry at him and upset for your mom, the pain he'd be inflicting on her...
NightsDarkRose Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 four kids.....if i dont have sympathy for his wife [cause she puts up with it] i should think of the kids. they're dad might suck too, but they dont deserve to witness what could happen. i kno i wouldnt want to see my mother hurt that way by her boyfriend or husband. and i would probably hate the girl just as much.
whichwayisup Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 Can I ask why you're saying lmao and lol so much in your posts? He has four kids. So, there are 3 more reasons NOT to kiss him anymore.
NightsDarkRose Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 i'll have to find someone else, pref someone who nots married with 4 kids and whos almost 20 years older....cause im really not a bad person and i dont want to hurt someone, and im aware that im selfish but i have to squash that character flaw and think about someone else. his kids really dont deserve it and i dont deserve to be second best or just a knotch in his belt. as regards to the lmao nad lols.... i was laughing. i have a tendency to see the humor in things....and the whole idea just struck me as really perverse and ridiculous and i had to laugh a bit.
Outcast Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 IMHO it's good you're laughing. You're seeing him for the skanky old fart he is. Hitting on teenagers! And he knows he's cute so he trades on that, thinking it'll get him what he wants. You'll see a lot of this sort as you go through life. None will be any more impressive - all kinda sad, really.
NightsDarkRose Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 he really does trade on his looks...u called him on it. im glad i posted this thread, u really put it in a different perspective....it is kind of sad, and i'd be even sadder if i put myself with him...cause its not a nice thing to do, and just like him being a manwhore says alot about his character and what little of it he has, sleeping with him would make me look just as bad. if he cant be the mature one here, ill have to be. luckily im a woman, so it comes more natural
Outcast Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 if he cant be the mature one here, ill have to be. luckily im a woman, so it comes more natural You GO, girl
notdefeated Posted July 23, 2006 Posted July 23, 2006 I am new to this forum- and this is the first thread I read. Apart from knowing he is just going to use you-which you already know-he's been caught before you said- take into consideration you still have to work with this guy. It can make it very difficult to go to work everyday and face him after the two of you have been together. I was in your shoes- was flattered that the vice-president of a huge company I worked for, was interested in me and he also was married. I rejected his advances and was so glad I did. A couple of things to keep in mind: 1. How will your working environment be after the affair 2. Are you ready to deal with a wife who may find out 3. He's cheated before- he'll do it again- if they cheat with you, they'll cheat on you 4. How will you handle company functions when he shows up with his wife So may aspects to think about- I would walk away from it, keep your dignity, and one more piece of advice. What will he tell the other guys about you if the opportunity arises-can you deal with that? Good luck to you whatever your decision is-I certainly understand how you feel.
NightsDarkRose Posted July 23, 2006 Posted July 23, 2006 I remember how embarrassed i was the first time i came to work after making out with him the night for...i didnt know how i looked him in the face...but he was so nice and normal like nothing was out of the ordinary...hes very sneaky...having a daughter close to my age, i think he knows what to say and what to do to make a young girl feel at ease. he has a lot of balls....hes one of the managers and one of his men who works for him and with him is the brother of his wife. thats the only reason why i wouldnt think he would tell people if we slept together, but then again i could just be naive. im really happy i found this forum, you guys are so nice and its great having a place to talk to people who understand.
NightsDarkRose Posted July 23, 2006 Posted July 23, 2006 i posted this again here to get feedback on my predator theory. what makes it hard tho sometimes is the crap he pulls...he'll pass by me and quickly grab my shoulder and squeeze....or little smiles....all, of course, that make me want to jump him right then and there....its like a little sexual rush that goes right to my head. but its all hormones. when the cloud of lust passes, and i see things clearly...i see him for the scumbag he really is...hes 37 and im 19.....even if hes gorgeous, doesnt excuse the fact that [as a fellow poster said to me before} hes pulling a joey buttafuco and its really disturbing. when i think about how everything started and all the behavior, i suddenly see it as a predator stalking its prey. he knew just what to do....it started off soo subtle and slow...that i never saw it coming....he was so seducing and sweet and innocent seeming...that i was in over my head before i knew what was up....i was a virgin when i met him! which he knew... and even tho i dated someone after him and lost it to that person, MM was my first real physical awakening....[it was in the 2 month period of no contact that i lost it to someone else...haha bet MM is kicking himself in the ass now....} but really, the whole thing in retrospect is really creepy, cause how he did it....it really was like a slow seduction and the fact that his daughter is 17 gives it a very eerie vibe.
Guest Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 I will NEVER understand this. Men are horny creatures. It's a common saying that a man will screw anything that doesn't run fast enough and yes, I know it's a broad generalization and that many men aren't that way. But still, men are horndogs so that one wants to sleep with you is no big deal. Of course he does! Whoop de do. He wants to polish his knob in your vagina today, somebody else's tomorrow. He's already been caught doing it before. He'd love to sleep with bunches of women, I'm sure, but most have enough self-respect to not spread for a guy just because he's interested. Because they already know it's not flattering at all. It's just male. I know it might sound a little harsh but I agree with Outcast. This is not something that you should be proud of. In fact you should feel outraged that he doesn't give a damm about you as a person. He doesn't even see you as a valuable, young woman who should be loved and respected, he just sees an opportunity. He wants to use you only to satisfy his own sexual desires and then he will throw you away like yesterday's news and move on to the next pretty face. This is not about Mr. Happy pants and his lack of morals THIS IS ABOUT YOU and your ability to make wise decisions. You are an adult and you need to be very careful about the decisions that you make today as they can sometimes have a negative bearing on your life for a long time to come..... While this may not seem like a big deal at the moment and you might be justifying it in your mind by saying that you don't expect him to leave his wife so that makes it ok. Keep in mind that You will have to bear the consequences of your own behavior in this affair, good and bad and you have no idea what those consequences will be or how disasterous things could turn out for you. With all that in mind choose Wisely!
NightsDarkRose Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 i faced him today...and he corners me in the hallway and is being all nice and flirtatious...but heres the part of the conversation i think you'll all appreciate:: him:: did u call me on fri? me:: no...i deleted your number from my phone him-raised eyebrow as if he didnt believe it:: cause someone called and my wife answered and i was like oh **** -sheepish smile designed to make him look cute and irresistable- me:: well it wasnt me...maybe it was some other 19 yr old ur ****ing with...perhaps one of your daughters friends? or is 17 even pushing it for you? dont worry about me calling u, rest assured, im over this ::looking right at his crotch area:: little drama hahahaahhaha then i walked off of course, i ran into the bathroom when i made my escape and resisted the urge to cry and scream....damn damn damn did i do the right thing? oh god now im having a panic attack....he tried calling my extension all day but i ignored him...now i dont know whats gonna happen tomorrow thank god i didnt sleep with him! thank god i dont have to look him in the face knowing that...oh god did i do the right thing? was that too harsh? will it come back to bite me in the ass?
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