avellana Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 [COLOR=black][FONT=Times New Roman]It’s been 3+months after a n/c brkup. He broke up. Fine- it was time. It didn't end on good terms. He’s very controlling and at times abusive (1x physical). I was on my way out tonight and at a light noticed he was behind me in the car. I didn't acknowledge him. I quickly moved to the next light, he kept his distance. At the next light he intentionally changed lanes to be behind me and wrote my license plate # down. At what point do I get my life back? What is this person thinking? I have been nowhere near his house. I haven’t talked with his friends. I've been doing my own thing & moving on. Could we be within a mile of each other? Maybe, I don't really think about it. In my mind there's nothing between us but the past & that's where it is going to stay. I'm not going to be avoidant and go into hiding, because of him. It's just over for me. What am I supposed to do, it’s been 3 months? [/FONT][/COLOR]
Heavenseventeen Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 You need to write all the incidents down and take it to the police. Plus you should tell your friends, family and work mates so they know what's going on. This is clearly stalking. I don't want to scare you, but you need to go to the authorities. There must be something like a restraining order you can get. It would be better if you add evidence of when he abused you (physically and emotionally are just as bad as each other). It is obvious that being as controlling as he is, he assumed that your life revolves around his. To see you moving on is cheesing him off. Good. You keep on moving up. He thought that he had control when he dumped you- you're showing him how strong you can be. Well done and good luck!
Author avellana Posted July 22, 2006 Author Posted July 22, 2006 Our paths do & could cross every once in a while. I could go further out of my way to avoid him in public, but I feel like I'm giving into his control. I overhead someone say that I want him back. Not true. We were going to the same place last night (we both knew it). When i saw him i avoided it. Hopefully, he'll get a clue. I'm don't want to play these games. It's just over for me. What is a reasonable amount of time for this person to get past this? I want my freedom to live a normal life?
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