Keith1234 Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 my girlfriend and i have been dating for 9 months and recently she says she lost the spark. we have disscussed it and her mind is set on only one solution. that it becomes an open relationship so we can sleep with other people. i have no desire too. but its pretty clear that theres nothing else we can do besides break up. what would u do
Chinook Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 my girlfriend and i have been dating for 9 months and recently she says she lost the spark. we have disscussed it and her mind is set on only one solution. that it becomes an open relationship so we can sleep with other people. i have no desire too. but its pretty clear that theres nothing else we can do besides break up. what would u do Seriously....? I'd dump her.
Author Keith1234 Posted July 22, 2006 Author Posted July 22, 2006 yea shes serious. i wish it was that simple. but i mean i still love her, and she still loves me. but she says the spark is gone in the sex. maybe thats whats most important to her.
Pedro Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 Ask her to bring one of her cute girlfriends home for fun, its worth a try because it sounds like things are going to be over soon anyways. Your only other option is to try to romance her the best way you know how so you can win her back from all this open relationship talk.
Dataniel Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 yea shes serious. i wish it was that simple. but i mean i still love her, and she still loves me. but she says the spark is gone in the sex. maybe thats whats most important to her. you need to show her the difference between making love and having sex then again, maybe it's you who doesn't know that there is actually a difference. look into it, and try giving her some love. (this would be a good time to bring out the candles, insents, blues/soul/softrock music, formal+fancy dinner, and a walk through the park or city)
RecordProducer Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 If the sparkle is gone after 9 months then you're not right for each other. I would understand if she complained about not getting enough attention or affection from you; or if you had problems in bed, but she simply wants to screw other guys. That's not a relationship. You have to show her that you don't want to put up with that kind of treatment. Because you don't. Right? If you accept something against your will, you will feel humiliated and lose self-respect. Have enough dignity to reject that idea even if it means you'd have to reject the whole relationship. Your pride, your attitudes, your opinions, your feelings and self-esteem are what your personality consists of. If you walk all over them (or let HER do it), you will deny your value. You can live without her, but you have to live with yourself.
Author Keith1234 Posted July 22, 2006 Author Posted July 22, 2006 thx recordproducer. that makes the most sense, and thats exactally waht i did today. i told her im not gonna be ok wiht it, and its over if she cant pick between me and some random guys. u saying that is making me think i made the right decision.
scrybe74 Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 You made the right decision. Also be relieved that it didn't happen behind your back. At least she was upfront.
evilsponge Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 I agree with scrybe74 and recordproducer, you made the right choice.
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