Fun2BMe Posted July 23, 2006 Posted July 23, 2006 If I'm so damn boring, why do they continually want to hang out every single night of the week? Ok, maybe you're not boring. But read the title of your thread. You HATE your boring friends. First of all, you have to step back and look at this situation reasonably. I doubt you really hate them and I doubt that they are really boring. They could be interesting and fun to hang out with but you prefer to go out and they don't so you think they are boring and hateful. Unfortunately since they do not want to go out, you can't force them to. But what about you tempt them to the point that they give in? Why don't you tell them that so and so bar has these amazing drinks they should try and on such and such night they have a live band playing, that it would be fun if you all checked it out. Pick the place, talk about the fun things there and a specific night. Make it sound appealing and easy to commit to. Maybe once they go out and have a blast, they will start wanting to do it more often. It could be that they are stuck in their ways and maybe they need a friend like you to 'drag' or entice them to go out and mix the flow of things so it doesn't become too regular and boring doing the same thing at the same place time after time.
Guest Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 I guess I was just looking for others who maybe had the same issues, not to be attacked and told I was immature because I like to drink occasionally, or be told that I must be boring because I'm bored with my friends. I think the title of your post just came across pretty harsh "I HATE my boring friends" Maybe some people saw themselves described in your post and got defensive. My best friend and I went through some 'growing pains' when I went back to grad school. I was working full time and going full time to school. Whenever I had spare time, the last thing I wanted to do was go to a club, go out drinking, etc. For one thing, I didn't have spare income. For another, I had no spare energy. So I was probably a bit more boring than usual at that time. What I really longed to do on my time off was enjoy the quiet and peacefulness of my home, with a good movie and a good dinner. And a friend or two. My best friend on the other hand had an established job and plenty of spare cash and free time. She wanted to go dancing, clubbing, carousing around the city. We finally had a huge argument because she couldn't understand why I never wanted to go out. I couldn't understand why she couldn't SEE how tired and broke I was. So perhaps there is a good reason for your friends not wanting to go out. Maybe they are tired. Or maybe they are strapped for cash. In any event, it seems like they still care enough about you to want to spend time with you. I would try to be more understanding of their lifestyle. The bars do get old after a certain point. Some people are tired of them long before others get tired of them. They need new interests. Sometimes it's a practical issue; for example, if you have to get up with the kids early in the morning you sure don't want to have a hangover. Maybe you can think of things to do outside of the house that doesn't involve bars or drinking.
Zeeboo Zebuloo Posted July 31, 2006 Posted July 31, 2006 It is difficult to meet new people but that's exactly what you must do. My husband & I used to throw elaborate parties for our friends before we had our son. Any holiday-you name it-New Year's Eve...Halloween...July Fourth...even the Academy Awards Oscar Ceremonies were cause for a HUGE celebration. We felt like John Gatsby. It was so much fun to feel so cool...then one day? I realized that if I didn't THROW parties??? I'd NEVER get INVITED to any!!! Erm? I got invited to plenty of Pampered Chef, Avon, Mary Kay, Tastefully Delicious, Silpada, Tupperware, and Party Lite "PARTIES"! Then again? If you're expected to shell out hard earned cash for crap you don't need? Uh, it's a pretty bogus fraudulent "PARTY"-that you've been "invited" to attend. Time to scout out fresh & friendly faces in happier places, woman!
Author worriedsick Posted September 20, 2006 Author Posted September 20, 2006 It is difficult to meet new people but that's exactly what you must do. My husband & I used to throw elaborate parties for our friends before we had our son. Any holiday-you name it-New Year's Eve...Halloween...July Fourth...even the Academy Awards Oscar Ceremonies were cause for a HUGE celebration. We felt like John Gatsby. It was so much fun to feel so cool...then one day? I realized that if I didn't THROW parties??? I'd NEVER get INVITED to any!!! Erm? I got invited to plenty of Pampered Chef, Avon, Mary Kay, Tastefully Delicious, Silpada, Tupperware, and Party Lite "PARTIES"! Then again? If you're expected to shell out hard earned cash for crap you don't need? Uh, it's a pretty bogus fraudulent "PARTY"-that you've been "invited" to attend. Time to scout out fresh & friendly faces in happier places, woman! Thanks for the support. My husband and I have since made the decision that we're just going to say F*** them all. We're tired of never having anything new that they'll do besides sit around and watch movies or play games, so we're sort of washing our hands of them. We aren't throwing away the friendships, so to speak, but we're not really counting on them for anything anymore. We have basically stopped calling and inviting them over, and we won't go over to any of their houses either. We were thinking about throwing a Halloween party because we knew that our friends wouldn't be into going to the city for all the bashes there, but when I asked, they all even complained about having to put a costume on. Basically, it would be just like every other night of the week only with a Halloween theme that I spent a fortune on to decorate and cook for. Well, screw them. I'm done. They can all sit on their asses and do nothing, but we're done with it.
LakeGirl Posted September 21, 2006 Posted September 21, 2006 Really - you won't lose them as friends you just won't see them as often or do fun things with them. New friends come and go as your life changes. Just wait for the soccer and football games that your kids will more than likely get involved in - then you have all the pents with common interests wanting to get out and have a little fun.
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