Keith1234 Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 Hey sry i posted this as a guest, and i just found my username. Hey, i have been going out with my girlfriend for 9 months now and there has been nothing but problems this last month. The reason it really all started was becasue her paretns found her birth control and said we werent allowed to see eachother anymore. After that we both just started sneeking out at night and whenever they werent around. And we would see eachother almost every day but just for an hour or two at a time. When we first started this month, we agreed to stop having sex for a while casue that was what put us in that situation. One night we came close to having sex but stopped ourselves in time. the next morning she told me that she wasnt sure what she felt anymore. She didnt know if she loved me and didnt know what to do. We decided that we would keep it a friendly relationship for a bit and then maybe it will start getting romantic again. After this we decided to have sex again, but just leave feelings out of it. Today after we had sex. she enjoyed it, but now she told me that the spark is all gone. that she isnt excited anymore when she sees me or anything. She asked if i would be ok with an open relationship and i said that it wasnt a good idea. i cant put myself into a position where either of us are trying to stay together while fooling around wiht others. I told her that and it just started a fight and wasnt helpfull at all. I still love her now and want so much to be loved by her again, but i dont know if she ever will want me back or if i should bother trying. She tells me she still loves me and cares for me, but she still has no spark for me. I wrote a letter to her parents asking to be allowed to see her again, hopefully that will work, but even if it does, it wont fix our spark problem. What should i do. do we stay together and hope for the best, do i let her see other guys and just not care, or do i do the hardest thing possible and let her go so she can be happy again however she wants. thx for helping out, im just so overwhelmed wiht this situation.
confused423 Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 an open relationship is a huge sign! take it. dont ignore it. go find someone who has a spark for you. in a relationship both have to push towards eachother, when one pulls away the other is pushing beyond there bounds. when that happens you either get back to your "center" or you go find someone else. sounds like your gonna be in a one sided relationship pretty soon to me.
tearful_soul22 Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 she asked you about having an open relationship? well..she should've just told you in plain simple english "I know I can do better than you, but just in case I mess up, I still want you around as my consolation prize." let her go...you are better off with someone who truly cares for you, respects your feelings, and one who is worthy of your love! take care and good luck..
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