someone_thinking Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 hi all, i would like to ask your opinion abt one guy that i met . Nothing much i know abt this guy , since we met up not so long time agao. I knew this guy abt last month. He called me several times after the first date,and he asked me to meet up . He keep on contacting me over the phone, texted me , etc even when he is going overseas. I quite like him but i feel that he is so difficult to be with. What i mean is that he is so high profile , highly educated , speaks in 6 different languages and so busy with his schedule - flying almost everyweek. obviously , he is very smart ,... with a brilliant performance. As a woman of course i am glad to know this guy ( just being honest) , but on the other hannd i feel that he is "too high " , like a star in the sky that i couldnt reach. I am afraid that we are not in the same level. It may sound like insecure ...or something like that .. yes maybe i am. or maybe i just be realistic. I come from simple background and living a simple life. I am educated but not as high profile as he is , just a simple and ordinary gal . Happy with my work , familiy and buddies. I am thinking of avoiding him , because i am afraid that it may hurt me in the future. Guys, what do u think ? SHould i see him again and or just keep a distance ? Guy , gals , if you were me what would you do ?
Guest Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 Guys I've dated before have always said they thought I was too good for them, and that always made me a little angry. I'm a very ambitious person, and I've worked very hard to get to where I am. I know what I've done is considered extraordinary by some people, but this isn't necessarily what I'm looking for in a bf. Who wants to date their mirror image anyways? He's a mature adult and can decide for himself who is good enough and who is not good enough for him. Just because you don't have as high an education, does not make you beneath him in any way, shape, or form. Different people have different attractive qualities. He may find you fun, witty, kind, etc. Maybe it's your simplicity itself which attracts you to him. If you like him as well, go for it! Life is too short. It always helps to be cautious and to keep your eyes peeled, but honestly, who knows? It could be the best thing that ever happened to you, so stop sitting in a corner and thinking he's too good for you. You may regret not acting later. Hope this helps!
PoisonMelody Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 I agree, if you really like this guy...go with it! He seems pretty into you, making sure to keep in touch a lot & all that. When you get involved with someone, no matter who they are, you are always vunerable to getting hurt. But you have to take that chance & go for it anyway if you really want to find that special someone. But please make sure after you get to know him better that you genuinely like this guy as a person and that he treats you well...not just that he is successful and, I assume, fairly well-off. That kind of security in a relationship is nice...but believe me...if he's not "the one" for you, and you realize that at some point, don't stay with him just for the security.
someone_thinking Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 But please make sure after you get to know him better that you genuinely like this guy as a person and that he treats you well...not just that he is successful and, I assume, fairly well-off. That kind of security in a relationship is nice...but believe me...if he's not "the one" for you, and you realize that at some point, don't stay with him just for the security. i agree with you. i may give a try , But still , i am kinda afraid that i may not compatible to him ... anyone of you ever encounter such an exp ?
monkey00 Posted July 23, 2006 Posted July 23, 2006 If he makes you feel small or little, then it cant be helped. If you believe he's too much for you to handle then i suggest finding someone closer to your plane of existence...in terms of time, availability, success, education, and stability. However dont forget that everything takes time.
nips5050 Posted July 23, 2006 Posted July 23, 2006 i agree with you. i may give a try , But still , i am kinda afraid that i may not compatible to him ... anyone of you ever encounter such an exp ? Guys like that don't come along everyday! Take it as a blessing!! I definitely wouldn't push him aside. If is arrogant, probably but it sounds like this guy is just ambitious. You are lucky to know such a man!! Keep that in mind!!
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