royallydistrait Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 I had been with my BF for almost 3 years now. Then he left from where we went to school due to graduation in December. It always felt he left me in the dust in some sort of way but I didn't think about it too hard. During the time period he was gone I saw him a few different times. We would talk on the phone but it was like 5 minutes here and there nothing special. We had been talking about where we were going to be when I was done with school which was this coming up December. Everything was fine and we were going where someone found a job. Well he found something and we had been planning to go where he found a job. So, we had been planning and figuring stuff out. Then all the sudden 3 weeks ago he snapped and said he was confused with life and didn't know what he wanted out of life and said that it would be best if we broke up. This was just a sudden change of events because it was out of the blue. He said he didn't think he could be commited to come visit me and call me and so on. I said fine whatever. I was very upset and he said he was thinking about it for a few weeks but didn't know how he felt about it still. Then we didn't talk and the next day he emailed me and said he needed space but only a couples weeks and he wanted me to be a part of his life still just not this minute and he signed off as love you always and forever. So, I left everything and gave home space and he called me everyday and said that we weren't single and we were together just with some space. So everything was perfect all week long and we talking for about an hour a day. Then the weekend rolled around and he didn't call or talk to me and I decided to call (which I hadn't been for the last week) and no answer. So, I emailed him and he back and said he wasn't ready again and didn't know how he felt. So, we had a huge blowout on Sunday. We were yelling and having a huge fight and hung up on have a nice life. Then that night I emailed and I just said maybe thats not the way we should have ended a great relationship, I had a good time with you, you are a great person and all this nice stuff and I ended with this doesn't mean I will wait around for you but if you ever need anything you can talk to me anytime. Then he didn't message me back until yesterday and he said "yeah we had a good time, i appreciate everything your family did, i will miss all of you and i just felt it was time to move on take care." (HEARTLESS) he had been telling me all along that he loved me and still cared but he needed to be be by himself and needed space to figure out life. His bestfriend even told me he was confused about life. He also said that he hated long distance and the phone. If we were together none of this would have happened...we never fought and always supported each other in everything and now this. What am I supposed to do??? I am absolutely crushed and I just don't know what to do or think.........HELP ME!!
Brittanyjean06 Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 It's a break up because its broken and I know your hurting right now but the best thing for you to do is dont give this guy the slightess chance on thinking he can easily talk or chat with you. He is not hurting like you are. Were all here for a reason and we all go through this at one point in our life!! It's not really that its heartless of him. Its just he is not hurting like you are so this is easier for him than it is for you! I'm sorry :-( I know what it feels like in the begining and I hope this site helps you as it has been helping me for a year!
Author royallydistrait Posted July 22, 2006 Author Posted July 22, 2006 yeah, i hear you on that. it is broken and who knows if its fixable. (probs not...) the problem i keep running into with this situation is that the only response he ever gave me for this whole thing is "i need to be alone, single, by myself" and I dont get it. i know i used the word "heartless" but i meant gutless by emailing me his feelings on the situation. it is so hard to let go of something that was such a huge part of my life...it just makes me soooo sad!!
Poboy Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 Time for you to move on . tough , but give it time ... you will be ok . He is obviouslly too confused about his own life and does not know how you fit in so its a good thing for you that things are clear so that you can move on. Do not contact him or let him contact you ... you will be much better then rather than to give in to him . Take comfort in your friends and family , get busy in life with other things & it will be ok in sometime & There are great guys out there ... look out for them
Author royallydistrait Posted July 22, 2006 Author Posted July 22, 2006 yeah i think you are right. it is time... as of now through the grapevine i think i heard its another girl... its just tough that someone could love you so much and break yor heart all over long distance and finding someone to fill the hole in your heart. He was sooo lonely by himself so he just went and found someone to fill it. thats what kills me. i was there and woulda done anything but i guess that wasnt enough. tears rolling...
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