Star Gazer Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 Around the 4th of July I met an Army officer who is stationed in Fort Bragg while he was on R&R here in SoCal. We hit it off right away, and things got physical in a matter of days. To me, it really was just a great week that was fun and carefree, albeit intense. I had the expectation that he'd leave and ... just ... kinda ... forget about me, or something. Not to say that that's what I wanted, but I just assumed as much and enjoyed the time that we did have together. He's now back at For Bragg, calling 4x a day, telling me he misses me, wants me to fly out there, etc. We still BARELY know each other. He got really offended when I said "How can you miss me?" instead of what he wanted to hear: "I miss you too." He's full of compliments, wants to hear all about my day, uses pet names and such. He also tries to instigate phone sex of sorts, and I'm not down with doing that with someone I really don't know all that well. What's going on here? I spoke with my mom about this, and she suggested that military guys tend to attach quickly...is that all it is?? I'd like to maintain contact with this guy so that the potential to build something is there...but with the way he's acting right now, I just want to RUN.
Pyro Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 He doesn't get too many opportunities for affection, so I can see him going overboard/trying too hard. That, or he is the clingy type when it comes to relationships. The next time that he calls tell him that he is trying too hard with you and that you want to take things slow.
2020vision Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 If I were you, I would run. Beware of a person that is this clingy this fast. I have never been in the army nor have I known anyone in the army, but I think it has little or nothing to do with the fact that this guy is needy. but with the way he's acting right now, I just want to RUN. Always trust your gut instinct. I have never heard anyone say "God, in the begginning of the relationship, I thought he was psyhcho and wanted to run away from it, then it just turned out to be a match made in heaven". Those two just don't go together.
Author Star Gazer Posted July 23, 2006 Author Posted July 23, 2006 He read my mind, and called me about an hour after I posted this thread...and said pretty much exactly what Riddler did - that he doesn't find someone he likes very often and got carried away. He said it before I even had to bring it up. Phew!!
ridingthebulls Posted July 23, 2006 Posted July 23, 2006 I'm thinking these men have to deal with months on end of fearing for their lives and being pretty lonely that they want to take full advantage of any opportunities for love when they get home because who knows when they will come back or IF they will??
Author Star Gazer Posted July 23, 2006 Author Posted July 23, 2006 I'm thinking these men have to deal with months on end of fearing for their lives and being pretty lonely that they want to take full advantage of any opportunities for love when they get home because who knows when they will come back or IF they will?? Right. Makes sense to me now...
Yamaha Posted July 23, 2006 Posted July 23, 2006 You can't be that attached after a few days. You might like someones looks and personality and company but there is no way you can really miss THEM in this short of time. What he misses is the affection and sex that you both shared. He is back and wanting more of the same. Why should he go out looking for another girl when he remembers you and the fun you both had and you can start again where you left off? Either this or he is emotionally unstable and that is not a pretty picture.
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