UT_longhorn Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 So last night I went out with a couple of buddies and I ran into my ex. We broke up on new years day, so its been almost 7 months. I havent seen her or spoken to her in about 5 or 6 months. Shes not made one bit of effort to see how i was or made any attempt at contact. Neither have I because i was too scared. I am a bit bitter as to how she could just drop me so cruelly and never look back once. Our conversation must have lasted about 5 minutes total. I asked her a few questions about her and her job. Wished her happy belated birthday. We chatted about some other things for a quick bit. Then I just hung out with my friends for the rest of the night. Before I left I told her I was leaving and goodbye and we hugged. It was tough, I admit. Im feeling a bit shook up today. I guess the only question is "why"? Why do I still care? Why did she do this? Why is it so unfair?
KittenMoon Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 Well, I have to remark UT, you sound better than you did before at least. Isn't that something?
Author UT_longhorn Posted July 21, 2006 Author Posted July 21, 2006 kittenmoon, i am definately in a better place than where i was a few months ago. its just yesterday F'd me up. Brought be back a few steps. Sometimes I feel that its not necessarily her that I miss, but miss the happiness associated with the times. Shoot I dunno. I feel she got the better end of the stick, and I was left in the cold. I hope there is some sort of karma that rights all this.
Brittanyjean06 Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 I'm surprised kittenMoon didn't respond back yet! but when she gives you further advice I'm sure she knows exactly what to say on as to why you are missing her:) Yeah it brought you back a few steps, the healing process isn't always right on the mark of when you are going to truely heal. But I'm sorry you had to run in to her. I'm really proud that you haven't initiated contact with her. If you do run in to her again keep the chat short and move on. I hate setbacks :-( but there bound to happen right.
KittenMoon Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 I'm surprised kittenMoon didn't respond back yet! but when she gives you further advice I'm sure she knows exactly what to say on as to why you are missing her:) Wow thanks for the vote of confidence Brit- but honestly I'm not sure what to say. But I feel for you UT- every day I struggle with putting a finger on what I miss. Do I miss him? Do I miss feeling loved? Do I miss my comfortable network of shared friends and activities, etc? No freakin idea. So I'm with you UT. But maybe it doesn't matter WHAT you miss because she's moved on, and well, that's closure.
In Sync Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 So last night I went out with a couple of buddies and I ran into my ex. We broke up on new years day, so its been almost 7 months. I havent seen her or spoken to her in about 5 or 6 months. Shes not made one bit of effort to see how i was or made any attempt at contact. Neither have I because i was too scared. I am a bit bitter as to how she could just drop me so cruelly and never look back once. Our conversation must have lasted about 5 minutes total. I asked her a few questions about her and her job. Wished her happy belated birthday. We chatted about some other things for a quick bit. Then I just hung out with my friends for the rest of the night. Before I left I told her I was leaving and goodbye and we hugged. It was tough, I admit. Im feeling a bit shook up today. I guess the only question is "why"? Why do I still care? Why did she do this? Why is it so unfair? You still care because you have a heart. You're human and you have feelings. Just because the relationshiped does not mean your heart turned to a block ice. As I read about your encounter I say well done you. You were able to be cordial and with dignity. I can only say that if ever I run into the ex, I can be just as balanced as you were. Life is unfair into to build our character. If evething was so easy how else would we learn to grow and mature.
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