PandorasBox Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 What is your take on people who are never satisfied? Sure its human nature to want what we don't have, or to want to improve/better ourselves etc, because we are always growing and changing. I think thats understandable, but I have learned over the years to be happy with what I do have. I would love to buy a new/bigger home in the near future but its not something I have to have right now, its not something thats going to bring me down and get depressed over, because I'm happy with what I have at the moment. Maybe some people forget about the little things in life that make them happy, I dunno. Do others feel that SOME people are never satisfied due to maybe they were spoiled? Maybe they always got their way or got whatever they wanted in life, so nothing is ever enough, and they always keep wanting more and more? Do you think some people are who never satisfied are more likely to cheat because, looks to me if they aren't happy with the things they have, why would they be happy with a relationship? It seems they would always be seeking to fill that void of whatever kind of satisfaction they are lacking. Your thoughts?
Mz. Pixie Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 Perhaps it can also be from a LACK of having things. When a child is raised to think he can have everything handed to him and has to work for nothing- this is the result. But it can also be from a incredible need to fill up their emotional hole that's within themselves that never got filled up earlier in life.
Author PandorasBox Posted July 21, 2006 Author Posted July 21, 2006 Perhaps it can also be from a LACK of having things. When a child is raised to think he can have everything handed to him and has to work for nothing- this is the result. But it can also be from a incredible need to fill up their emotional hole that's within themselves that never got filled up earlier in life. I totally agree. My next question is, if you have someone who IS satisfied with things or what they have in life, but they are involved with someone who IS NOT ever satisfied how does that work out? Maybe they have to come to a compromise on things?
quankanne Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 nothing is ever enough that's my thought about not being satisfied with what you've got – especially when you've got someone who insists on keeping up with the Joneses. Then it becomes less about enjoying what you do have and more about trying to top someone at some stupid game you've invented inside your head! My next question is, if you have someone who IS satisfied with things or what they have in life, but they are involved with someone who IS NOT ever satisfied how does that work out? Maybe they have to come to a compromise on things? compromise is always good, but what would be even better is that the happily contented person's attitude will rub off on the other guy, so that the other guy realizes it's not about more or better, but enjoying what you've got.
Darkwall Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 I grew up not having a lot of what my friends had and i sometimes feel like i'm not happy with what i got. But, when things like work or my social life are going ok I don't feel that way. Those friends who grew up having everything I didn't seem ok to me. I guess it depends on the individual. If you take two different people or even two similiar people and raise them in the same environment with the same upbringing... chances are they will turn out differently and one will still feel unsatisfied. I guess surronding yourself with positive people and having something to do that makes you happy that is usually enough to fulfill you. I don't think that the person who is dissatisfied is liable of cheating. Having someone who is opposite to them might actually take away that empty feeling. Perhaps the unsatisfied person has other issues at hand at that's what's making them frown on the world.
norajane Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 I totally agree. My next question is, if you have someone who IS satisfied with things or what they have in life, but they are involved with someone who IS NOT ever satisfied how does that work out? Maybe they have to come to a compromise on things? I think that eventually breeds resentment...if they are never satisfied with anything, you start to think that you (as lover, husband/wife, friend, etc.) could never, ever satisfy them, either.
stillhere Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 I was always spoiled (not like Paris Hilton spoiled), but i always got what i wanted, to this day still. I shouldn't say ALWAYS, but usually. I also don't set my goals too high. I have my own house, yeah, it's not a $500,000 house, but it's MY house. I usually get the man i want, the things i want, usually whatever i have my heart set on, i find a way to get it. But i always respect my things. I've seen kids with stuff handed to them, and they don't take the reponsibility for it because it was handed to them.........that's not me!
stoopid_guy Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 I totally agree. My next question is, if you have someone who IS satisfied with things or what they have in life, but they are involved with someone who IS NOT ever satisfied how does that work out? Maybe they have to come to a compromise on things? I think that eventually breeds resentment...if they are never satisfied with anything, you start to think that you (as lover, husband/wife, friend, etc.) could never, ever satisfy them, either. I'll second that. No matter what you do, it's never enough. It will drive a wedge between two people. To quote that great American philosopher, Cheryl Crowe: "It's not getting waht you want, it's wanting what you've got."
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