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Me and my gf have been together for almost 2 yr's now and I cant see this going any further. I see nothing getting better or our situation improving. She loves me and I her but that doesn't over ride the negitive aspects of things. She says she wants to improve things but all I see on her part is a increase in sexual exploration. Thats all fine and dandy but what about the other 90% of happiness in a realtionship? I dont wanna be the one to end things but I feel that would be the better for both of us. She is about to turn 21 and me 29. I have been through 2 marriages and have 2 children. She deals with this the best she can and I think I would be better off with someone closer my age and has a child. I feel the mutual life expiriences would benefit the possible relationship greater then someone as young as her without these issues under her belt. I'm very confused and REALLY need some advise!! PLEASE HELP!!

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If you don't feel it's working out, you're going to have to tell her. Otherwise you'll be leading her on, spending time together which you just know you're not going to enjoy, pretending you're having a great time with her, etc...

 

Put simply, it's a sham. Continuing a relationship with the doubts you're expressing will only lead to resentment...

 

Why not quit while you're ahead, and enjoy the memories of the good times you had together, instead of letting things end on a sour note?

 

Good luck! :)

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If you are so sure that it is terminal then prepare to have a clean break up. If you care aobut her do your best to keep the pain to a miinimum and remain friends if that is possible.

 

you must talk to her and be tactful. Dont let it fall apart becasue you didnt confront her with the issue. That will hurt you both and lead to resentment.

 

Take it carefully but do what you have too.

 

Good luck!

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