vi_pn Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 After I broke up with my ex-bf about a year ago, I moved back in with my parents. Well I really have no intention on moving out any time soon until I can afford to live on my own or when I find a guy that I want to spend the rest of my life with. I'm not worried what other people think, but I don't want it to be a turnoff either. I'm 25 years-old, so how old is too old to live with your parents?
magichands Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 You're never too old to be not paying rent. That's the way I look at it. I guess the only handicap is the "your place or mine" question. Climbing out of bedroom windows becomes a pain after a while.
Author vi_pn Posted July 21, 2006 Author Posted July 21, 2006 You're never too old to be not paying rent. That's the way I look at it. I guess the only handicap is the "your place or mine" question. Climbing out of bedroom windows becomes a pain after a while. You have a very good point, especially the rent part I've never really had a problem with the "your place or mine" thing, and actually I've had an f buddy for over a year now. But he knows and understands that I live with my parents so it's never been a problem.
Author vi_pn Posted July 21, 2006 Author Posted July 21, 2006 Does anyone else on here still live with their parents that are in their mid or late 20's?
magichands Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 Hey there - me again. Hopefully you will soon get some replies. Let's see, you are worrying about it being a turn off? Have you met someone new? I would just chill out and make the most of it. Right now you probably have a good life at home - and you can save a little too! Having said that, it is a great feeling to be truly independent. It took me a long time to move out of home, and soon after I did that I experienced a whole lot of new things that are now priceless memories. But that could have been a coincidence. At least part of it was exquisite timing. I think it does give you a new perspective on life though - and maybe that was what made the difference. I say this will happen naturally enough. Don't stress about it, and wait for your burning desire for independence to emerge. Or your parents to start making jokes (about you moving out). For now - enjoy yourself, and save a little for a rainy day. (Or spend the extra money having THE time of your life - you choose.) Your family can be a little hard to deal with when they're always so close, but try to appreciate them. You will never have this time over again, haha. If you move out, can I have your room? I'll keep it nice in case you change your mind.
Darkwall Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 Very funny magichands. I agree with him on everything. But, would like to add a little something. If you're so concerned about the age factor then obviously you have your answer. You answered it yourself. Or else this wouldn't even be an issue. But, to answer your question... forget society. They're doing more wrong than you can even imagine. At least you're at home. Some guys see that as a "nice girl" quality. The way I see it... you probably just finished college/university and even if you went straight to work... How much money could you possibly have saved to be supporting yourself? Nowadays tons of people are co-renting or just bearly making it on there own. You're obviously very independant so. Save as much money as you can so you can start renting your own place soon. Or, even better... you'll have a big down payment for a condo or house. Also, millions of people stay at home until they get married and then start a life with their partner. SO... you're not too old. As long as your parents are thrilled to have you back there's no problem. They sleep great at night just knowing your'e safe. Believe me.
laRubiaBonita Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 i am 27. i was out of my folks place, but i also moved broke up with my live in ex, so i moved home again. my older sister is also back at home, she will be 29 in Nov. she moved back after semi-finishing school, and is again back in school and working full time. my younger sister is still at home, she just turned 20. she is a full time student and works 2 jobs. i work full time and i also have a partime job. we do most stuff around the house, cleaning, cooking, etc.... we help buy groceries, we all pitch in to help our parents, even when we do not want to. when my older sister and i have been away from home, my mother always told us it was ok to move back, than to struggle and dig ourselves into (deeper)holes. she misses the hustle and bustle of a full house, although we do have a full house now.... the whole family is only ever together a few days a week. I think it is much harder now a days for kids to afford to move out the house, the ones i knew that did, still got assistance from their parents half the time. i see nothing wrong with living at home..... assuming the person has plans to move out at some point......
Pyro Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 i see nothing wrong with living at home..... assuming the person has plans to move out at some point...... I agree with this.
burning 4 revenge Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 I live with my sister in a similar situation. Her and her fiance more, or less take care of me. I pitch in with rent when I get financial aid but they do most everything else. The sad thing is she is my younger sister by five years
magichands Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 The sad thing is she is my younger sister by five years That's lovely. It's great that you are close. I have a younger sister too. She is always getting into trouble. And I always wanted to be the irresponsible one, haha.
magichands Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 They sleep great at night just knowing your'e safe. Believe me. There's that - too.
Author vi_pn Posted July 21, 2006 Author Posted July 21, 2006 Hey there - me again. Hopefully you will soon get some replies. Let's see, you are worrying about it being a turn off? Have you met someone new? I would just chill out and make the most of it. Right now you probably have a good life at home - and you can save a little too! Having said that, it is a great feeling to be truly independent. It took me a long time to move out of home, and soon after I did that I experienced a whole lot of new things that are now priceless memories. But that could have been a coincidence. At least part of it was exquisite timing. I think it does give you a new perspective on life though - and maybe that was what made the difference. I say this will happen naturally enough. Don't stress about it, and wait for your burning desire for independence to emerge. Or your parents to start making jokes (about you moving out). For now - enjoy yourself, and save a little for a rainy day. (Or spend the extra money having THE time of your life - you choose.) Your family can be a little hard to deal with when they're always so close, but try to appreciate them. You will never have this time over again, haha. If you move out, can I have your room? I'll keep it nice in case you change your mind. I think my parents are just grateful that I'm not with my ex bf anymore to tell you the truth....it was a bad situation. They don't mind at all that I live at home, and it's not like I haven't experienced not living at home..I went away to college, then lived with my ex in an apartment for 4 years..so I've done my share of living away, especially at a young age of 18. But yah I'll let ya know when I move out, you can pretend you're like an exchange student or something, so learn a foreign language until then k lol
Author vi_pn Posted July 21, 2006 Author Posted July 21, 2006 Very funny magichands. I agree with him on everything. But, would like to add a little something. If you're so concerned about the age factor then obviously you have your answer. You answered it yourself. Or else this wouldn't even be an issue. But, to answer your question... forget society. They're doing more wrong than you can even imagine. At least you're at home. Some guys see that as a "nice girl" quality. The way I see it... you probably just finished college/university and even if you went straight to work... How much money could you possibly have saved to be supporting yourself? Nowadays tons of people are co-renting or just bearly making it on there own. You're obviously very independant so. Save as much money as you can so you can start renting your own place soon. Or, even better... you'll have a big down payment for a condo or house. Also, millions of people stay at home until they get married and then start a life with their partner. SO... you're not too old. As long as your parents are thrilled to have you back there's no problem. They sleep great at night just knowing your'e safe. Believe me. I think that's going to be my plan..wait until I get married...then move out. Or at least until I can afford to live on my own. Also, I don't want to make the same mistake again...living with a bf, without knowing if I'd marry him or not. It honestly was a waste of money! But anyway, I just learned that lesson the hard way I guess.
michelangelo Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 than it is for men. Just don't end up 40 and still saving for that 1st and last month's rent before you move out. There will always be ways to spend all your cash before saving to move out.
Author vi_pn Posted July 21, 2006 Author Posted July 21, 2006 i am 27. i was out of my folks place, but i also moved broke up with my live in ex, so i moved home again. my older sister is also back at home, she will be 29 in Nov. she moved back after semi-finishing school, and is again back in school and working full time. my younger sister is still at home, she just turned 20. she is a full time student and works 2 jobs. i work full time and i also have a partime job. we do most stuff around the house, cleaning, cooking, etc.... we help buy groceries, we all pitch in to help our parents, even when we do not want to. when my older sister and i have been away from home, my mother always told us it was ok to move back, than to struggle and dig ourselves into (deeper)holes. she misses the hustle and bustle of a full house, although we do have a full house now.... the whole family is only ever together a few days a week. I think it is much harder now a days for kids to afford to move out the house, the ones i knew that did, still got assistance from their parents half the time. i see nothing wrong with living at home..... assuming the person has plans to move out at some point...... Well I feel alot better knowing that I'm not the only one! And actually I have some friends that are my age or even a lil older that still live at home, but then again, some of them live on their own, or with a bf. Well I don't want to make the same mistake twice, living with someone that ends up being a waste of time or money. My parents are really great people and have always welcomed me with open arms. They help me whenever I need it, and it's not so lonely if I was living by myself in a sense. And plus, whenever they go out to eat or drink, I'll go with them and of course they pick up the tab, lol But they don't mind, because their happy that I'm home.
Author vi_pn Posted July 21, 2006 Author Posted July 21, 2006 I do have intentions on moving out, just not right at the moment because I do want to use the opportunity to save money.
Author vi_pn Posted July 21, 2006 Author Posted July 21, 2006 than it is for men. Just don't end up 40 and still saving for that 1st and last month's rent before you move out. There will always be ways to spend all your cash before saving to move out. That can be true about men still living at home. It seems more acceptable for a girl to live at home until they get serious about someone. Trust me I won't be living here when I'm 40! I plan on moving out even way before 30 even. I'm in a career now that I'll be able to make alot of money in the near future, so it won't be long. But I'll have to make do with what I have now, and at least my parents and I don't mind until then
Yamaha Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 My opinion is that at 25 you should be on your own. Saving money is good but you need to learn to save while living on your own income. Time to cut the cord and live on your own.
Author vi_pn Posted July 21, 2006 Author Posted July 21, 2006 My opinion is that at 25 you should be on your own. Saving money is good but you need to learn to save while living on your own income. Time to cut the cord and live on your own. Well the fact is I did live on my own for 6 years, from when I was 18-24. So I know what it's like to pay rent, save my money and fend for myself. The point I was trying to get at is that I'm not ready money-wise to live on my own just yet, and I'd rather have my own place then live with someone else, especially a guy, until I'm in a serious relationship. So in reply to your post...I beg to differ...I've been there...done that, I know what it's like...trust me
magichands Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 Yeah - so you're like 18 or 19 in living-at-home years. I say enjoy it while you can. There is a lot to be said for living at home, rather than lining someone else's pocket - all in the name of "independence." I love living away from home. All my income is used up on rent and food. It's an exciting life. (Okay, it's not so bad that I've had to give up chocolate... yet.) But, hey - I'm doing it out of choice, so I really don't mind. I'm "investing in my future," haha. And I miss having dogs around. Especially ones that don't have to be fed out of my own pocket. I even got excited last week because I found some money in my jacket pocket - that's sick.
Author vi_pn Posted July 22, 2006 Author Posted July 22, 2006 Yeah - so you're like 18 or 19 in living-at-home years. I say enjoy it while you can. There is a lot to be said for living at home, rather than lining someone else's pocket - all in the name of "independence." I love living away from home. All my income is used up on rent and food. It's an exciting life. (Okay, it's not so bad that I've had to give up chocolate... yet.) But, hey - I'm doing it out of choice, so I really don't mind. I'm "investing in my future," haha. And I miss having dogs around. Especially ones that don't have to be fed out of my own pocket. I even got excited last week because I found some money in my jacket pocket - that's sick. Thanks for your reply magichands I agree with you, and I don't mind living at home, especially since I get along with my parents. Like I said before I don't want to move in with anyone especially a guy until I know I'm serious about marriage, and my parents would agree...it wouldn't be good to keep jumping from one place to the next.
RecordProducer Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 I was 29 and living with my mom and my two sons in her apartment when I met my (2nd) husband. I don't know if he was turned off by my financial situation, but I know he was turned ON by my whole personality and married me.
Author vi_pn Posted July 22, 2006 Author Posted July 22, 2006 I was 29 and living with my mom and my two sons in her apartment when I met my (2nd) husband. I don't know if he was turned off by my financial situation, but I know he was turned ON by my whole personality and married me. Well that's good to hear Until I find my future husband or be able to live on my own, I'm going to save as much money as I can, so it won't be as stressful when I decide to get married.
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