alwaybroken Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 For anyone with ex's... the ones that did not end because of cheating or anything dramatic. When in a long term relationship, how did you finally decide that it was better to break up than to try and go on?
Aloros Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 Well, we'd had talk after talk. He'd promised me change year after year, and year after year, gave me excuse after excuse as to why it hadn't happened. I put too much pressure on him, he was depressed, it was winter, etc. After a while I got tired of it. I had this niggling feeling in the back of my mind that I would be happier on my own. I kept clinging to him, not wanting to let go, and when we would stay together, or get back together, a little part of me would feel disappointed. The third time we broke up, I knew it was over permanently. The first time was very painful, second time, not so much, the last time, I was relieved more than anything. It's hard to know, exactly, especially when you're caught up in the emotions, and if you've been with a person for a long time. I will, however, in the future, be paying a good deal more attention to that little voice in the back of my mind. If something is telling you it isn't right, it probably isn't.
whichwayisup Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 If you feel happier when you're not with him/her, then maybe it's time to say goodbye. If the bad outweighs the good, it's time to say goodbye. And if you've tried your best to keep things going and it's not working - that is a sign as well. If you aren't sure, then talk to your boyfriend/girlfriend. Maybe separating and not seeing eachother for a while might help you decide. Seeing how life is without your partner in your daily life.
SarahRose Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 Very simple rule. When your are more than your with your mate, it is time to move on.
luvtoto Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 For anyone with ex's... the ones that did not end because of cheating or anything dramatic. When in a long term relationship, how did you finally decide that it was better to break up than to try and go on? If I was in a relationship, I would end it if over years and years of trying, nothing changes. I've heard people refer to insanity as doing something the same way over and over again, expecting a different outcome. But, it never changes. There comes a time to just end it...for sanity.
Pyro Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 For anyone with ex's... the ones that did not end because of cheating or anything dramatic. When in a long term relationship, how did you finally decide that it was better to break up than to try and go on? I ended it when I realized that it was never going to get better. I realized that the trust was gone and being with her was only going to stress both of us out. I also realized that it was not an equal effort on both of our parts to try and work things out. I was doing pratically all the work. This was one of my greatest lessons that I learned in life. I was glad to had gone through it.
l2hvn Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 *when you did the best you could, and there's no improvement in the relationship *when you don't feel satisfied/completely happy with the person; something's missing *when there's more bad than good going on *when you feel like you're giving more into it than being on equal footing *when you find yourself trying to change the other person, or wanting the person to be somebody they're not *when you're not on the same page in life; going different directions/wanting different things
john1776 Posted July 22, 2006 Posted July 22, 2006 For anyone with ex's... the ones that did not end because of cheating or anything dramatic. When in a long term relationship, how did you finally decide that it was better to break up than to try and go on? I decide to break up once I feel that I have outgrown the relationship or when I suspect that she's about to dump me. I always strive to do the dumping first in all my relationships.
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