Citizen Erased Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years now. I love him to bits. However, he informed me the other day that he wouldn't be taking my birthday off work. I was like, fine he may have something important on I can accept that etc. I asked him why and he told me that he gets a $50 bonus if he turns up to work every day. He isn't taking my birthday off because of $50? I had to arrange with someone to take their holiday's off a day later, arranged his party and he will not even take 1 day off of work to spend with me. I will be alone on my birthday. That is so sad. He won't take me out to dinner because it is on a Tuesday and he will have to work the next day. Oh and then he would have to SPEND his $50. The only time we go out is to see a movie. No dinner, nothing. I have gone out on 1 date in the entire 2 years I have been with him. I haven't complained because I would prefer to be at home having sex I just feel like yelling YOU HAD BETTER TAKE THE BLOODY DAY OFF YOU BASTARD IT IS MY BIRTHDAY AND I WANT TO BE HAVING SEX ALL DAY LONG SO YOU CAN SHOVE THAT $50 UP YOUR A$$ AND TAKE ME OUT TO DINNER OR YOU WILL NOT HAVE OWNERSHIP OF YOUR BALLS ANYMORE! Okay that made me feel better. Sometimes I could strangle the loveable idiot. AAARGHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
allina Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 I would be PISSED!! Also, are you saying that in the 2 years you have been with him you two have only gone on one date? That's pretty crazy.
jerbear Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 $50 bonus for showing up everyday for a perfect attendance award? Somewhat lame. $50 or sex... I'll take sex... Honestly I think he might be up to something and saying he is not taking off is just a way to get you upset then he'll come on by on your bday and surprise ya! Because of that, you'll love him to even more bits.
Author Citizen Erased Posted July 21, 2006 Author Posted July 21, 2006 $50 bonus for showing up everyday for a perfect attendance award? Somewhat lame. $50 or sex... I'll take sex... Honestly I think he might be up to something and saying he is not taking off is just a way to get you upset then he'll come on by on your bday and surprise ya! Because of that, you'll love him to even more bits. That's just the thing, he hasn't got a romantic bone in his body. He wouldn't come up with anything even half suprising. He is a great boyfriend in every other way but he wouldn't know romance if it came up and bit him on the a$$. And yes Allina I mean one date in the whole 2 years. I mean, we go out with friends, we go see movies but only once have we ever gone out to dinner alone. Even if I suggest something then he kinda avoids talking about it. I am only 19 I feel like I have been married for about 20 years (oh yeah and I live with him so it's not like we dont see each other lol but it is no excuse. It would be like me saying Im not having sex with him on his bday cos I want to watch the OC (Okay not the same, but you catch my drift).
jerbear Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 It would be like me saying Im not having sex with him on his bday cos I want to watch the OC (Okay not the same, but you catch my drift). Tell him to save his $50 for a tivo because if he wants sex on his bday; he better have the OC recorded and ready for you to watch whenever YOU are ready! :lmao: Honestly just goto his work, flash him and see what he does.
Author Citizen Erased Posted July 21, 2006 Author Posted July 21, 2006 Tell him to save his $50 for a tivo because if he wants sex on his bday; he better have the OC recorded and ready for you to watch whenever YOU are ready! :lmao: Honestly just goto his work, flash him and see what he does. :lmao: Better yet I will make him watch all three seasons in a row when Season 3 comes out on DVD. That'll show him! He works witha ton of guys so I dont know how comfortable I would feel flashing his mates...
Walk Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 I hear you on how irritating it is to know your bf won't take your bday off. Last year I spent the entire day alone. Seriously alone. (he drives truck and left at 5am on my bday, and got home 3 days later.) I was so pissed. At everyone. In hindsight, I probably should've been a little more mature about it... but I was really hurt, upset, angry, etc. My parents didn't call, none of my friends called, and my bf couldn't even spend part of the day with me... Anyways, I feel your pain. It sucks. Only thing I can say is find something that you love doing, and do that on your bday. If it means spending $50 on yourself, then do it. Sometimes the best revenge is having a blast without the other person. Not that you want to get revenge... but he might realize he missed out on something great by chosing work over you. But don't just sit at home. It won't make you feel any better, it wastes your day, and it doesn't help anyone (especially you).
MsArtful Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 I'd be really narked too! If he won't budge and works on your birthday, perhaps suggest a different day that you can spend together to celebrate it. Walk's suggestion is really good, enjoy your birthday! Pamper and spoil yourself, go out with friends.
Kengne Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years now. I love him to bits. However, he informed me the other day that he wouldn't be taking my birthday off work. I was like, fine he may have something important on I can accept that etc. I asked him why and he told me that he gets a $50 bonus if he turns up to work every day. He isn't taking my birthday off because of $50? I had to arrange with someone to take their holiday's off a day later, arranged his party and he will not even take 1 day off of work to spend with me. I will be alone on my birthday. That is so sad. He won't take me out to dinner because it is on a Tuesday and he will have to work the next day. Oh and then he would have to SPEND his $50. The only time we go out is to see a movie. No dinner, nothing. I have gone out on 1 date in the entire 2 years I have been with him. I haven't complained because I would prefer to be at home having sex I just feel like yelling YOU HAD BETTER TAKE THE BLOODY DAY OFF YOU BASTARD IT IS MY BIRTHDAY AND I WANT TO BE HAVING SEX ALL DAY LONG SO YOU CAN SHOVE THAT $50 UP YOUR A$$ AND TAKE ME OUT TO DINNER OR YOU WILL NOT HAVE OWNERSHIP OF YOUR BALLS ANYMORE! Okay that made me feel better. Sometimes I could strangle the loveable idiot. AAARGHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hm... I wouldn't think it a big issue that he NOT take a day off work, if he planned something with you that evening or even that weekend. But if you're saying he most likely HASN'T *being that he doesn't have a romantic bone in his body* - well then Are you happy in this rel'ship, or just satisfied? Because to ME romance is a big deal, and I'm only 23. I wouldn't want to be sitting at home, or sitting in a movie theatre for the rest of my life. But you seem okay with this, at least for the last 2 years, so WHY now are you surprised that he isn't going out of his way to do anything special for your birthday? Has he done such things in the past? ANother thing - just because YOU did smth for his birthday, does NOT guarantee he will 'get the hint' & do smth equally nice back. Many many men are dumb like that. They will take, but cannot give back. It sucks, but that's why you should only do smth WITHOUT EXPECTATIONS and without expecting to receive back. You already know what type of person your bf is, and now you're complaining. You cannot change who he is. Only he can change himself. So now you either - DEAL with it, or get out. No point throwing a hissyfit because he will only get on the defensive - it will NOT encourage him to do anything. Good luck! K.
rina_r Posted July 27, 2006 Posted July 27, 2006 Are you married? Does he work 24 hrs on your B-day? If no, then I dont think he HAS to take time off his work. It is just a birthday, for Gods sake! If you want to have a date, you may work out another time.
superconductor Posted July 27, 2006 Posted July 27, 2006 So you've known this guy for two years, he hasn't "got a romantic bone in his body," and suddenly you're all piqued because he doesn't want to take a day off for your birthday? Get over yourself. Fact is that the entire planet does not revolve around your birthday. Kenghe is right on the money. If it's that big a deal that he doesn't spend time with you on your birthday - besides, not everyone thinks birthdays are a big deal anyway, it's just another day - then leave. He'll probably be thankful.
magichands Posted July 27, 2006 Posted July 27, 2006 $50 or sex... I'll take sex... You can have sex anytime. Fifty bucks can get you interest.
rina_r Posted July 27, 2006 Posted July 27, 2006 Yep, and add up to a diamond ring in the future. Think big,girl!
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