crushed2285 Posted July 20, 2006 Posted July 20, 2006 so after my ex being gone for a month and not seeing him at all (summer break), he came back to visit. it's been 8 months since our "break," and 6 months since the official break up. the weekend was wonderful. he acted affectionate and sweet and we spent the whole weekend together (alone and with mutual friends). we got along great, it almost felt like how it used to be, waking up in his arms and all. he took me out for a fancy dinner (he had gift certificates, but only covered a portion of the bill) and i got all dressed up and he kept telling me how pretty i looked. he took a bunch of pictures of me and us and we laughed, held hands and stared into each others eyes throughout the meal (this was sunday, the last night he was here). everytime we would drive somewhere he would hold my hand or put his hand on my leg, little stuff like that. he told me he had not slept with anyone during that month (i of course can't know if this is true for a fact, but he mentioned it on more than one occasion), and we did sleep together (i was beyond horny). on the last night, after our dinner we went to play poker and we had a lot of fun with our friends. he had to head back home that night because he had to work early the next morning. we said our goodbyes, lots of hugging and kissing. he kept saying "be strong for me baby", even though he knows its tough. he will not be back again for 5 weeks because he is going with his family to visit his brother who is in the military. everything was wonderful until he said "text me" and i was like "or we can just talk on the phone" or something like that. then he started saying how calling was a bad idea and how texting was better and he like hearing my voice but blah blah blah (he was drunk and really wasnt making fluid complete sentences so i couldn't even tell you what was said really, i was kinda buzzed too). we broke up because of him needing space (i was a crazy smotherer) but it's been eight months and we still have that connection. i did so well during this month break of him being gone and he came back around to me, texting me every other day or so saying how he loved me and missed me and wanted to hold me. i just don't understand why he doesn't want to talk on the phone and keep up with each other's lives? he's never been a phone person at all but jeez! i know he felt it too, he was great, not distant at all and nothing was awkward as it had been before we had this time away from each other (we lived next to each other so we never had that ). i KNOW i left a good impression and was a much stronger me than the me that he left a month ago. should i just back off and make him miss me more? is he still just not ready? i'm confuzzled after such a wonderful weekend. oh yeah my birthday is next month and he was like of course i'll be back for your birthday and talking about other stuff we can do in the future. i don't wanna be worried for nothing but i also don't wanna be stupid. we have come so far and i feel like we could be getting to a good place, but he is still holding back i dont wanna ruin this, i never thought i would have gotten this far
MrPot Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 i KNOW i left a good impression and was a much stronger me than the me that he left a month ago. This is great; this is what you wanted to gain out of the breakup. should i just back off and make him miss me more? I'd back off a little bit. Go out with him and see him; just be a challenge. Make sure he understands that you have a great life going on whether or not he's there with you.
Author crushed2285 Posted July 22, 2006 Author Posted July 22, 2006 thanks mr pot =) anyone else have any idea why he is acting this way? i haven't heard from him since tuesday afternoon. i sent him a text saying i had a nice time this weekend and he wrote back "it was a lot of fun. i miss you" and then nothing since then. why is he still keeping me at a distance? we have two brief periods of NC over this past month we've been in different cities, one of eight days and one of nine. the first time he broke it with stuff like "i love you so much. i'm starving for you". and "i can't wait to have you in my arms." i got those kinds of text every other day or so for two weeks and then it stopped. he had been on a trip with his friend and after he got back home he stopped sending them. then after the next period of short NC, he broke it again asking if i wanted to see him this weekend and that he was coming up to visit. then we had that great weekend and now it seems its back to NC. i don't know when he will initiate again, but when we were saying our goodbyes he was talking about texting each other and whatnot. i don't know what to think? he will be gone for that 5 weeks to visit his brother in the service with his family but said he would be back in time for my birthday. and the time he spent here he was so sweet and loving, always being affectionate. but then as soon as he leaves, nothing so far. it's only been 3 days, so its still early, but i can't help but be anxious about all this.
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