almostthere Posted July 20, 2006 Posted July 20, 2006 I was talking to my friend last night and her bf is hinting on at asking her to marry him. She is afraid of commitment but doesnt know why. Sometimes she feels that she is afraid of losing someone she loves to divorce. Some times she wants to raise her kids by herself and get through their childhood then concentrate on herself. She loves this guy deeply and trusts that he or she may never cheat. (I say may never because who really knows unfortunately). So she said to me that she would be stupid to say no. She dreams of the purposal and wants to spend the rest of her life with him. The scary part for her is sharing her life with someone else who is fully capable of breaking her heart and drowning her world (in her words). I told her if she wants to marry him then she needs not to worry about the future (well exaggerated concerns anyway) and take that risk. She is also afraid of another divorce and knows how people drift apart even though they are really really close right now. She told me this... I will accept because i want that too and i love him too. But i am not going to worry myself because the engagement will be long (finishing school first) and if things arent working then we can part without a divorce. Does that sound strange?
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