Praetorian Posted July 20, 2006 Posted July 20, 2006 Well some of you know my stories... "Love on office" is the thread related to this one. She's in a 7 year relationship, and we involved with each other two months after we met in the office. Several times we came up with the conclusion that it was better for us to forget all this...and then...the only friends story... But, easier said than done...we fall in the arms of one another several, several times. The other day, things might have been definitely over between us, she said she will never see me as a friend, because she feels more for me than just that. But then again she says that she's afraid of ending her relationship, afraid that the world will colapse on her...because despite not receiving anything from her relationship, well she says she still loves him. Now a couple minutes ago, we were talking and i asked her why was she so sad about... "i think i broke up with my boyfriend"... What does she want from me? What is my role on this? Is there any role for me at all? I think i don't love her, i mean i like to be with her, my heart was ripped of the other day when she said she still loves him...but i know for sure that a relationship between the two of us is never going to work out, we are very very different... Help me out on this one, please!
typical Posted July 20, 2006 Posted July 20, 2006 "i think i broke up with my boyfriend"... What does she want from me? What is my role on this? Is there any role for me at all? Yes, this is a very awkward time for you indeed. I think if you search within yourself, you can find the answer quite simply: What she wants from you is for you to tell her its okay. Thats your cue to tell her you want to be her boyfriend that will love and cherish her and be everything that the last one wasnt. She was probably thinking that if she broke up with him, everything would change between the two of you and you would naturally recieve her with open arms. Thats what she is waiting for. NOT A GOOD IDEA: think i don't love her Unless this: my heart was ripped of the other day when she said she still loves him... means that you really do love her but feeling in denial. but i know for sure that a relationship between the two of us is never going to work out, we are very very different... Its been said that opposites attract.... Dont do anything yet until you have worked on how you feel exactly. Things could get real mucky from here on out if you dont carefully filter everything you say to her, because she will more than likely latch on to any shard of information you say to her and analyze it to how she sees fit. Then again, this: "i think i broke up with my boyfriend" Might be a desperate drama filled ploy to either spice up things between the two of you, or to get a clear read on how you process that tantalizing shred of information- so she can know how to proceed. as in, if you are eager, hot and overjoyed at hearing this news, you will be all over her, comforting her, and telling her all will be well because you are there to save her now.....might reinforce her idea that it was/will be a good choice to break it off with BF or..you are not so eager, and basically non commital and not at all hot towards her piece of news, so it will reinforce her idea that it wasnt/wont be a good choice to break it off with BF. she is reading your vibes right now. be very careful. DO you want her?
Author Praetorian Posted July 21, 2006 Author Posted July 21, 2006 Things are over now. Definitely! I thought i could hold on to this one, but i'm breaking again... there's no turning back, she does still love him...doesn't have enough feelings for me to begin a relationship...it was, as she said, only attraction. Something tells me she is going to return to him, as i expected... Okay, heart broken, but, lesson learned, i hope... Feeling lonely by the way...
typical Posted July 21, 2006 Posted July 21, 2006 Okay, now I am confused..... This: Things are over now. Definitely! I thought i could hold on to this one, but i'm breaking again... and this: Okay, heart broken, but, lesson learned, i hope... Seem to contradict this: I think i don't love her, i mean i like to be with her and this: .but i know for sure that a relationship between the two of us is never going to work But maybe it is because I am not familiar with your other posts. Something tells me she is going to return to him, as i expected... It was probably something you said to her that made her feel like you werent likely to take a chance with her.
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