confused423 Posted July 20, 2006 Posted July 20, 2006 i find myself conflicted with the queston of weather or not i should care, my gf and i are on a "break" and ive made my point that this means no seeing other people, but i find ive gained a lack of trust for her and am torn between caring and not caring at all about what she does with her life, because this break is only really making it easier for me to let her go, but this is one problem i cant seem to sort out. Its so hard to say that im single but not seperate. which is what she defined us as. shes trying to save our relationship but its effects on me are nowhere near positive, the longer we continue NC the easier it is to let her go. its been 8 days now and she called today, i couldnt answer i just didnt want to get hurt again. should i call her back? if so how do i talk to her without putting myself out there to get hurt again?
Winfield Posted July 20, 2006 Posted July 20, 2006 i find myself conflicted with the queston of weather or not i should care, my gf and i are on a "break" and ive made my point that this means no seeing other people, but i find ive gained a lack of trust for her and am torn between caring and not caring at all about what she does with her life, because this break is only really making it easier for me to let her go, but this is one problem i cant seem to sort out. Its so hard to say that im single but not seperate. which is what she defined us as. shes trying to save our relationship but its effects on me are nowhere near positive, the longer we continue NC the easier it is to let her go. its been 8 days now and she called today, i couldnt answer i just didnt want to get hurt again. should i call her back? if so how do i talk to her without putting myself out there to get hurt again? If you're on a break, anything can happen - assuming you guys aren't married, then there's nothing to stop either of you seeing other people. Whoever initiated the "break" has admitted that things aren't working out. Put it this way - if everything was going A-OK, what need would there be for a "break"? And if there was reconciliation between you both at a later stage, how long would it be before another "break"? If it happened once, it could well happen again... Single but not separate? I'd ask her again to make up her mind - you can't be both. I think she's trying to keep her options open. If you're finding it easier to let go, then go with your instinct. Relationships are built on trust (and, seeing from your post, you don't trust her), so if you can't trust, what use is there pursuing something which won't get off the ground? As for giving her a call - well, if I were you, I'd have picked up when she rang (besides, she'd be the one paying for the call, lol) Nah, seriously, I'd have picked up and listened to what she had to say...talk things through...you'd have had the opportunity to give your take on the matter, let her know how you're feeling about things... Even if it's just for closure purposes, do the decent thing and communicate! She rang you last, so I guess now it's your turn to return the favour? However it turns out, good luck!
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