heartbroken411 Posted July 19, 2006 Posted July 19, 2006 Ok, if you haven't read some of my earlier posts, I'll catch you up to speed. My ex and I broke up in late May, tried to work things out, but couldn't. I just graduated from school in NY and we were going to move in together, but since things went wrong, I'm going back home to Florida. I told him on Saturday that I was going home, but that I didn't know for how long and that I just needed to clear my head and get my life back on track. We met up Sunday and saw a movie and went back to his place and made love. I was satisfied with that as the closure I needed, so when he kept sending me messages on aim and texts, I ignored them since I'm trying to get over him. But then he texted me yesterday asking me why I wasn't answering him and I felt really bad since he's my best friend and we were together for three years. He told me that he needs to see me before I leave, that he's really gonna miss me, and wants to take me to dinner tonight. At first I thought, ok, he just wants another round of sex, but he sent me a text early this morning confirming our date and asking if the restaurant was ok and saying that I can still make it to my goodbye party my friends are throwing me afterward and he'll just go home. I don't know what's going on?? I thought we said our goodbyes already. One of my friends said he's just being nice because I'm leaving. Is that it?? I don't know what to think of this...
Mollyanna Posted July 19, 2006 Posted July 19, 2006 if he is your best friend, then he does genuinely care about you and knows how much he will miss you. he is trying to spend every amount of time with you he can, because he knows you will not be there at his convenience anymore. but if you don't think you can handle it, you aren't obligated to see him again. You said your goodbyes, what more can you say that you haven't said to each other already? And will it even make a difference? Is there anything he could say that would at this point make you decide to not leave? Good Luck in whatever you decide.
Lola Smith Posted July 19, 2006 Posted July 19, 2006 May I ask why it couldn't work? Yours is a tough situation, I mean it seems like he cares for you but could you handle dinner with him?
chocolate_boy Posted July 19, 2006 Posted July 19, 2006 In 3 years of frequenting this website, i've yet to read a positive or worthwhile outcome from one of these dinner dates, we all do them immediately after a breakup and they always in dissapointment as best, tears at worst. I personally would leave it, but it is a normal part of the breakup proccess, and you often don't hear from the ex again after this date. You could save yourself the pain now, but I guess like all of us, you think it will be different. I hope it is, but maybe you have to see.
Lost1616 Posted July 20, 2006 Posted July 20, 2006 Heartbroken411, im sorry to hear about your troubles. I can relate as most people can on here because we are all going through the same/similar things. From a guys perspective as in (if it were me asking you to dinner 1 last time) i would really appreciate that you took one last good time before you went away. I think you just have to treat it fun and dont get into any relationship talks, it just sounds like he does care about you and wishes to have one last goodbye as a friend. But i will ask.. if you guys broke up in late May, had you still been hanging out? Just curious as a female how you got to the point of sleeping with him again if things didnt work out. I mean.. if presumably u fell out of love with him. Who broke up with who?
Guest Posted July 20, 2006 Posted July 20, 2006 We broke up because he cheated on me, but he apologized profusely saying it would never happen again, but I wasn't sure I could trust him so I told him we'd just hang out and see how it goes. He thought I was seeing someone else while we were trying to work things out and got extremely upset and just said it was over and didn't want to try anymore. We haven't really talked or seen each other since this incident until I told him I was leaving. Then he said he wanted to take me out one last time before I leave. I don't understand why he won't come back. It's so confusing to me. We have so much fun together, I feel like he really does love me (I don't think they're just words he's throwing in my face), he tells me I brighten his day and he loves spending time with me, everything is amazing. But ever since we started looking for apartments to move in together, I feel he has been picking fights and cheated on me. ???? Now he suddenly wants to tell me how he really feels and take me out because I'm leaving???
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