misslady7 Posted July 19, 2006 Posted July 19, 2006 Hey guys, I am sure so many of you have read my recent threads about my so-called boyfriend, now ex-boyfriend. I say ex-boyfriend because of this (please read below)I saw that he was talking to this woman on this website, in which he promised me that I had absolutely nothing to worry about, that he would not allow this to go any further than just chatting on the net. (I left out his name and number). When I saw this all I could do is cry because this is not the first time he did this, but since he told me I had nothing to worry about I tried my best to believe him. It hurts so bad because I have developed a very strong bond with his family, they all love and adore me, just this past Saturday his mom threw a party for him and his birthday was monday and mine is this saturday. And I cannot believe that after all we been through he would do this to me. (her)ummm thanks for allowing me to be your friend so ummm now will you be my loverboy???? (him)lol i would love that beautiful jsut wondering which part of NY are you located. Hit me back up later sexy would love to get to know you. (her)oooo. umm i am in yonkers. do you know where that is??? (him)yeah i have relatives there. Well i hope we can meet sometime i can see we'll have some fun together oh yeah love the tattoo i see u still got it later sexy. (her)i am willing. all i need is a name... and a number to call (him) lol the name is J---- and the my home number is ---------- it's actually my b-day today so i won't be here so if you give me your number i'll give you a call when i get back if that's ok with you. After I read this in his inbox on this website, because I couldn't get to him via telephone I sent him a really nasty e-mail if you're interested let me know I will copy and paste it. Now the more I read this it just makes me so angry. But the hardest part is moving on from this. I have gotten so completely comfortable with this relationship it's as if I don't know what I should do with myself now. My birthday is coming up and the plan was for him and I be together. It's like now what do I do.
superconductor Posted July 19, 2006 Posted July 19, 2006 If he's your ex, what he does (or doesn't do) is not your concern anymore. Sending him that nasty email probably wasn't the best idea. It's not particularly smart to write anything in an email that you wouldn't like published in the newspaper. But you can't take back what's already been done, so your best bet is to just move on and go complete NC with him. Living well is the best revenge. So live well, and give him not a minute's worth of thought.
Walk Posted July 19, 2006 Posted July 19, 2006 I think you'd be wise to make new arrangements for your birthday. Something that you'll enjoy that is completely different from what you would've done if you had been with the ex. You were right to dump him. You got your frustrations out in the email. Its done. Now take some time for yourself to heal. Treat yourself like you would treat someone who had the flu or was hurt. Eat healthy, drink fluids, get some good movies or books. Pamper yourself for a while. Just because this guy was a p.o.s. pig, doesn't mean you should take it out on yourself. Give yourself the time to heal and grieve, and don't neglect your health. Don't stop eating, or start drinking too much. It only makes you feel worse, not better.
blind_otter Posted July 19, 2006 Posted July 19, 2006 I think you'd be wise to make new arrangements for your birthday. Something that you'll enjoy that is completely different from what you would've done if you had been with the ex. You were right to dump him. You got your frustrations out in the email. Its done. Now take some time for yourself to heal. Treat yourself like you would treat someone who had the flu or was hurt. Eat healthy, drink fluids, get some good movies or books. Pamper yourself for a while. Just because this guy was a p.o.s. pig, doesn't mean you should take it out on yourself. Give yourself the time to heal and grieve, and don't neglect your health. Don't stop eating, or start drinking too much. It only makes you feel worse, not better. Good advice from the sagacious walk, as usual.
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