nikerun21 Posted July 19, 2006 Posted July 19, 2006 OKay, heres the story: I met a girl at school in the dorms we got pregnant, had an abortion it was a mistake, got pregnant again, had a miscarriage and I acted like i didnt like the whol etime and then i graduated and left her at school, and she dumped me 2 months later, and ive been lonely at home emialing her crying acting all needy, writing desperate emials, well slowly each month she blcok ed me out of her life, she has a restraining order on me, changed her screnen name, and never contacts me. I owed her 300$ for the abortion to pay her back and after getting her money she stopped taling to me. I love her a lot, but now shes seeing a new guy basically after i left school seh started seeing new boys and withdrawin gfrom me, now she never talks to me and tells me to move on, but shes my first love and well we had kids together and i was dumb and had this, and my life sucks. Is there a way to get her back, im home alone and shes at school and this no contact thing i cant do it for more than 2 days, ive done emails, cards, gifts, ive mnet her, everytime i see her she acts angry and we where so close at school hung out everyday ate lunch and dinne rtogether, I dont have any other friends and IM bored at home. WilL i ever get her back? I cant even have a conversaationw ith her she cut me off like that. I guess 2 things: Never leave your girlfirend and no abortion. It reall yhurts her having sex wiht new guys I mean she was a virgin when i met her and shes really nice and pretty and I feel bad about babies, anyone offer any advice and tips for me to maybe have her start talking to me in the future is there something i can do? Anything?
Lollie72 Posted July 19, 2006 Posted July 19, 2006 I would look into why you'd be irresponsible to have gotten her pregnant at that time in your life. Learn from the expereince and grow stronger, and let her go, others will love you when you show your healthy to them in the future.
Guest Posted July 19, 2006 Posted July 19, 2006 I agree with Lollie. First of all, LEAVE HER ALONE. If she has taken legal action against you, then it is clear that she doesn't want you in her life. You don't want to get into serious trouble. There is no going back and there are NO SECOND CHANCES. Get to that point, then do reflection about yourself to prepare for the next person.
scrybe74 Posted July 19, 2006 Posted July 19, 2006 Restraining order? Please...do yourself a favor and leave her alone. You can't make anyone do anything. You're already sounding like a serious stalker. Stay away from her before you do something harmful to her or yourself. Get to a counselor right away and get yourself straight.
vampress1 Posted July 19, 2006 Posted July 19, 2006 I read that you felt the abortion was a mistake... but I have to say that I find it offensive for you to say that "you had kids together". I'm sorry... you actually chose NOT to have kids together. Ok, now that that's out of the way... I'm sorry buddy, but it's over between the two of you. I may be way off here, but the first thing I thought of when reading your post was that she must associate you with some pretty rough times in her life. An abortion as a young woman, a second unplanned pregnancy which resulted in a miscarriage, you behaving like you didn't care... do you see where I'm going here? If you care for her at all, you'll leave her alone. Like your ex said... it's time for you to move on. A restraining order? Buddy, get a clue... that's not something to take lightly.
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