Guest Posted July 19, 2006 Posted July 19, 2006 My girlfriend and I have been together almost 2 years. We just graduated high school, and will both be going to different schools in the same city. She has never kissed or dated anyone else, and I guess i can be a bit smothering. She says she needs some space and to meet some other guys so she broke off our relationship. How can I get her back? What should I do? We were madly in love, and very very happy until about a month or so ago.
Cecelius Posted July 19, 2006 Posted July 19, 2006 The only way you can get her back is to stop doing whatever being smothering means -- back way off, assume your relationship is gone, move on (really -- if she can tell you are faking it, it won't work), don't call or write, don't pursue, etc. That's a best case scenario. But really, given what she said, odds are that she wants to enjoy some unattached living and she will have fully moved on by the time freshman year starts. it's stereotypical, but in my experience, when a girl dumps you, she has very much made up her mind. You should give props to her though - -a lot of young people would go off to college and just cheat on the b/f.
superconductor Posted July 19, 2006 Posted July 19, 2006 "I need my space" is wimmenspeak for "I want to break up with you but haven't got the courage to tell you directly." Cec is exactly right. Back off entirely. Go full NC on her. There are two possibilities: She'll realize how much she missed you and come back; or Despite all her exhortations about being in love with you, her feelings weren't strong enough to keep you by her side. Either way, you win. You'll either get her back and she'll have a new appreciation for you, or you'll discover that she really wasn't that commited in the first place, allowing you to move on.
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