What do I do now?

[Prim&proper]

I need some advice. I don't know what to do. My boyfriend of 6 months and I broke up last night. We had a long talk last night on our anniversary last night about an issue we had before and he said to me that he feels that I don't respect his opinion or his perspective when we get into an argument and that he can't deal with someone who is emotionally psycho. He say he always feel like he's the rock when we get into a big relationship talk and that he can't be the rock anymore. So it is over. We then exchange keys and he packs his stuff and leaves. After he leaves he texted me telling me how much he is hurting. So I called and said we talk a little more and he says it's over. He's hurting too much and good bye. I then called and asked whether this is for real because tomorrow will be the point of no return, to which he says he doesn't know and just wishes that I would be the rock. So I drove over to his house and we talk some more and he tells me he can no longer see a future with us and that he doesn't know whether we are refusing to see the obvious. But he proceeds to hold me and tells me he loves me so much. But I couldn't do it. Once a decision to breakup has been made, I didn't see the point in prolonging the pain. So I asked him to let me go because I needed to start healing. He refused to let me go and said that he wants me to spend the night and go to bed and then talk on Thursday. Because I was in my pajamas I decided to go home. All night I could not sleep and thought long and hard about the relationship. I eventually decided that instead of being in limbo, it was better to walk away. also, I'm deeply hurt that he would so easily throw us away. A few weeks back we had a similar fight and he decided that he wanted a break because he's in a funk about our relationship, but the next day he came back begging and saying that he is over his funk. I feel so hurt that he can so easily throw what he considers the love of his life away. At 4am i wrote him a long email telling him that his fatalistic attitude towards us has infected me and he has managed to convince me that there is no future because he has so easily thrown it away and that we should part ways as a result. This morning he writes back that he feels i am the love of his life and he wants to talk. What do I do now? I don't know if I can be with someone who is so flighty. How do you do this? How do you break up and get back together and break up again? And how can I trust that he doesn't do this again because this is surely the last straw. I do not want another night like the one I just had.

[Violet87]

Your bf sounds very indecisive and doesn't seem too sure of what he wants. One moment he doesn't think you two will work out then the next he thinks you're the love of his life. Do you still want him? If you do then I think you should sit him down and call him out on how he's been acting. Ask him if a relationship with you is what he really wants and tell him that it's not fair on you for him to keeping switching back and forth between decisions.