CinderellaElla Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 I have a hard time trying to date a guy. I am perfectly straight, but I have a fear at dating it seems. I can flirt and just play around, but when it comes to actually being with one person i totally freak! Iam lucky if i last a week. I have this major thing on ''independence'' and i feel when iam in a relationship that the independence is gone and that iam not in control anymore. My friends nor family understand this about me and think iam weird. I tohught maybe it's because iam fine until i see someone else breakup and see how miserable they're, and the divorces going on and cheating. So what iam asking is, is there anyone else that has this problem and can you help me get out of this faze that iam in? Thanks.
Bazeballfreak011 Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 I know how you feel. Except, I was on the other end of that spectrum. My ex had a huge "independency" issue i guess you could call it. After we started reaching around 2 yrs, she started to freak out about who she was and what had happened to her life and all questoin like that. After you're with someone for a long time, you do tend to lose a part of yourself. As for you only last a week, its a bit extreme lol. Nah, all kidding aside, its good to be independent. Just be smart as to how far you take it. It's something you, and only you can work thru. Not every person is worth letting yourself get attached to. Sounds like you might have a commitment issue, which is normal. Some people just don't like commitment, others are fine with it. Just don't let it keep you out of something great. Love is about taking chances. Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose. You'll never know what's right for you unless you experience different things. Just remember, you wouldn't know joy if it weren't for pain. Hope this helps a lil atleast.
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