marela Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 i should marry soon after a long term relationship. i discovered my fiance is into web porn and has been downloading various stuff. i discovered by chance and he was v embarrased. he says there was nothing more to it but i wonder if there is?
JackJack Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 DO NOT enter into a marriage if you all are not on the same page about porn. Yes men are visual creatures, but I have seen and read many things on porn destryoing marriages/relationships. If two people are ok with it, then its fine, its whatever works for both people. However, if you don't like it and he does, then chances are there will be a problem about it. Maybe you all can come to some kind of compromise on the matter, but if you're dead set on not liking it and him not viewing it you need to make that clear to him in the beginning. Wheather he will respect what you say or not I don't know.
Guest Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 should i believe there is more to it like almost cheating? i am not saying i am totally against the whole porn idea and in the past i suggested we do something together but he always rejected. now he seems more comfortable watching/downloading it on his own and i feel kind of wronged that i did not know about it. i worry there is more to it. i feel bad that this has been kept a secret from me .. if a man keeps secrets how do you trust? how do you see lie from truth? i know he is v jeaulous and if i was downloading naked men in compromising positions he would not like it. i feel like this man is not attracted to me any more hence he is looking up other silicone enhanced women on the web. help.. so many questions through my head.. confused
JadeStar Posted July 19, 2006 Posted July 19, 2006 He probably has not told you about it, or hides it because he feels embarrassed by it, or he feels you wont approve. Talk with him on the matter. If it doesn't bother you that much, then reassure him its ok for him to view it once in awhile or even together. Find a middleground. I agree though about not marrying him until you all can work out some kind of agreement on the matter. So many people enter into a marriage knowing their spouse has habit that they don't care for and then when they marry they expect their spouse to drop that habit or change. Work it out before hand. Jade
purspeed Posted July 20, 2006 Posted July 20, 2006 99% of the world likes porn and the other 1% won't admit it. You know what, he might be into cross dressing to...you'd better start following him around and going through his stuff.
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