insomnie Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 I don't know how to handle the fact that my boyfriend doesn't seem particularly interested in being in a relationship. We have been together for two years, and the first 1.5 or so of them he was very affectionate and always trying to make me happy. Little things...like he'd give me a hug when I came over, seemed interested in talking to me, etc. The last couple of months, though....we've broken up three times. Each time I would mentioned that he was withdrawing from me, because he was, he would deny it for a while, then say he was feeling "pressured", like he was losing his freedom, and that he wanted to be alone. Every time, after about two weeks, he would come back. Never begging or anything - we would just hang out, it woudl lead to sex, and then we'd get back together. I've tried to give him more space, but it doens't seem to be doing that much good. Sometimes he will act like his old self, but most of the time I feel he wants to break up with me again. When I mention any of this he just tells me I'm right, yet he stays with me. I don't know what to do. I love him so much, but it makes me sad that I'm the only perosn in this relationship who wants to make it work. I know that it can't last that long this way, and yet....it seems silly to leave him when I care about him so much and he *does* come back to me. On the other hand, being with someone who is always on the verge of leaving me is making me feel pretty unhappy and insecure. What should I do?
Sally00 Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 It seems like you ARE the only one in this relationship. You're the only one putting effort into it. I was in a relationship similar to that. He never tried to see me or anything, so I broke it off. It seems like your guy would only go back to you for the sex. It seems like neither of you are happy.....
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