precious99 Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 Would you go to a wedding if your BF was a groomsman? I'm asking because I don't know if I want to or if I should go. He really wants me to be there but I'm not sure - I won't know anyone there. These are his friends whom I have only met a few times and to be honest they have not been very warm and fuzzy with me - but do I go to be supportive? Any opinions appreciated.
jerbear Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 It is a big event. Now how do you feel about it? How serious are you two? It would be bad for him as groomsman to not have his GF along. IMO, go along and support him in this event.
jessssss Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 i say go along...especially since he really wants you there. it won't last that long, support him.
blind_otter Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 Go along. You can have a window into a different part of his life by talking to his old friends about him.
Author precious99 Posted July 18, 2006 Author Posted July 18, 2006 We have been together almost eight months - and we are pretty serious. I just wonder how busy he will be and whether having me there will be a distraction - you know always worrying if I am ok etc...
blind_otter Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 No, unless he's neurotic. He'll be too busy with his groomsman duties, and you're duty is to mingle and entertain yourself.
quankanne Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 prolly – if I received a formal invite and there wasn't a work/other conflict. if he wants you there, go! You might enjoy getting to see a different side of him. I enjoyed going to my husband's family reunion because I finally got to meet a lot of the people he'd told me about or shared memories of – not exactly the same as your situation, but the end result is getting to know that person better. Besides, you're creating a new memory together, even if he's "on duty" for part of the event!
Walk Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 Maybe you could work out a trade.. You go to this wedding and be self-suffient yet there for him.. and he could do _____ for you later. I really think if a SO says they really want you there... then you drop everything and go. It's important to him, then it should be important to you. Relationships are about team efforts... and I'm sure, sometime in the future, you're going to have something you have to be involved in, and will want him to go. How would you feel if he said he didn't feel like it?
Author precious99 Posted July 18, 2006 Author Posted July 18, 2006 i totally agree and i am going - it was never that I didn't want to i just had been reading through some threads on here that suggested that he may be more worried about me and whether or not I am comfortable than with his duties. I do not want to take anything away from the day - but I will attend and I plan to have a great time!!
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