Guest Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 I have been with my boyfriend for 6months now and we have always been very close. Fell in love instantly, but recently he seems very distant and doesn't want to see me. When i do see him he is constantly texting a girl from work but assures me he is not interested. Then he started saying "i don't know what i want anymore i'm confused". So i asked him if he still wanted to be with me and he said "I don't know". The words broke my heart as i love him so much. He then said maybe we should have some time apart for a few weeks, he just wants fun. That night he says i've been thinking and i do want to be with you. We are going on holiday together in August so i don't know weather he is staying with me for the sake of it. He also said "I dont know whats happening in my head, i like you, but i dont think i love you, i think i did though". But then after a few hours he says he loves me. I am so confused and am upset, I just need your opinion on what i should do. I do love him more than anything else in this world but i don't know what he feels Please help me, i am in total despair!
lovestruck234 Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 Awww I hate hearing about stuff like this! It's heart wrenching! Well, it sounds like he is confused. Obviously judging by his change of min so often. Don't think the worst just yet. Give him time to think about it. I know it's going to be REALLY REALLY hard, but if he wants a few weeks apart, then do it. It's obvious he needs to clear his head a bit. Maybe you do too, just to relax a bit. Maybe when he has this time apart he will realise how much he does need you. You may be surprised! I wish you the very best and I'm sorry if my advice wasn't very helpful. xxx
magichands Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 When i do see him he is constantly texting a girl from work but assures me he is not interested. I think this is a clear sign of disrespect. I mean, his attentions should be with you! So i asked him if he still wanted to be with me and he said "I don't know". The words broke my heart as i love him so much. I'm really sorry. As you say, these words are like a dagger through the heart. It is difficult to trust someone again after they appear so ambivalent. And you deserve so much more than, "You know, I really don't mind being your boyfriend. It's kind of cool, I guess." (!!!!) He then said maybe we should have some time apart for a few weeks, he just wants fun. And he's not having fun with you????!!!! I feel for you, believe me. My heart has been shattered. And this is just the line to do it. But, like lovestruck has said, I think the best thing now is to give him the space he wants. Then, when he comes running back to you - that's the time to figure out whether you want his sorry arse back. Well... you know what I mean. I think you are worth a lot more than this sort of treatment. But that's for you to decide. He also said "I dont know whats happening in my head, i like you, but i dont think i love you, i think i did though". How romantic. Not!!!! It's lovely when people think out loud.
Guest Posted July 19, 2006 Posted July 19, 2006 Awww I hate hearing about stuff like this! It's heart wrenching! Well, it sounds like he is confused. Obviously judging by his change of min so often. Don't think the worst just yet. Give him time to think about it. I know it's going to be REALLY REALLY hard, but if he wants a few weeks apart, then do it. It's obvious he needs to clear his head a bit. Maybe you do too, just to relax a bit. Maybe when he has this time apart he will realise how much he does need you. You may be surprised! I wish you the very best and I'm sorry if my advice wasn't very helpful. xxx Thankyou your advice has been helpful, I'm hoping on holiday we will sort things out, otherwise i guess we were just not meant to be, and hopefully i will find some one who will love me for who i am xxx
flowergirl Posted July 19, 2006 Posted July 19, 2006 Arrrgh, I hate when guys don't have the guts to just tell a girl the truth outright! Sweetie, your boyfriend, in his own little idiotic way, is trying to tell you he doesn't want to be wtih you anymore. All that beating around the bush s***, "I don't know" and "I'm confused" translates to " I don't know how to tell you I don't love you anymore". Don't just give him space, bid his pathetic butt farewell, and move on to better things. Good luck.
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