nameless1978 Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 I'm involved with a married women, I love this women to death... She has kids which I adore. I work with the husband everyday. I have to listen to him talk **** about her. The worst part is when he tells me about his "getting some" as he calls it. It's really getting to me. She's the only reason I haven't knocked his ass out. At first I felt bad, then I realized the way he treated her. I no longer feel bad. He doesn't deserve such a wonderful women. I've talked to her about her leaving.... She gave me the generic answer of " I have to look out for my kids". Am I wrong in thinking this: They are going to grow up watching their father treat their mom like ****, and someday do the same." ? I don't know what to do... I'm head over heals for this girl. I hold back from taking action, because I care about her..... that's the only reason. I know that one day he is going to say something that is going to push me over the edge. It's just a matter of time. I've tried to break it off, but we just end up together again. I'm emotionally drained. It's to the point that I don't really even want to get up in the morning. I hate my work. I hate the position I'm in. I hate the fact that I treat her sooooo good, and at the end of the day, she goes home to him. It's killing me. But you know what the funny thing is, If I ever end up with her, It would be worth it, All of it. It's hard right now because I don't know how it's going to end, for better or worse. If I knew we would end up together, I could deal with this. But I have no idea whats going to happen. I needed to vent... Thanks and Please post your comments on my problem...I need some outside input, my mind is a little hazy. Thanks Again, Anonymous
yesmaybe Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 Is he abusive to her? I'm talking about emotionally or mentally. Maybe he's nice to her at home, but talks macho **** amongst the boys?
simona Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 I think you need to talk to her and ask her if she wants to be with you. If she does then I do not see a problem why you guys should not be together especially when her husband does not respect her . Cheers
Author nameless1978 Posted July 19, 2006 Author Posted July 19, 2006 I don't think he's ever hit her. He had better pray he never does. As far as emotionally abusing her. Yeah, It happens daily. She always asks me why he treats her the way he does. It's obvious to see from my side of the fence. He treats her the way he does, because she doesn't do anything about it. I've tried to explain this to her. I think the worst she's ever done is call him an ###hole. The only time he ever treats her decent is when he wants a piece of ass. She doesn't see this. They don't even sleep in the same room. He sleeps out in the living room with the kids. She sleeps alone in her room. I feel bad for her but at the same time She needs to do something about it.
yesmaybe Posted July 19, 2006 Posted July 19, 2006 nameless...I can understand that you want to save her. But these women have major trauma that makes them seek out abusive men. She wouldn't be happy with you because you're a decent man. If you really care about her - you will take her to therapy. Only a professional can help her start breaking the shackles of her trauma.
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