Michael426 Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 There is a woman who is a very good friend of mine. (We have known each other since we were kids!) She is married, but she and I still do things together, usually by ourselves. Her husband and I are cordial, but we've admitted we will never be friends just because we are too different. Anyway, like I said, she and I do things together, like movies and lunch and shopping etc. In a couple of months, there is a wedding that I will be attending. The couple are something of celebrities, and it will be a major social and media event. Would it be appropriate to ask my friend to be my escort for the wedding?
alphamale Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 Would it be appropriate to ask my friend to be my escort for the wedding? No it would not...
Author Michael426 Posted July 18, 2006 Author Posted July 18, 2006 No it would not... OK, I accept your answer, but could you elaborate please?
norajane Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 No, it's not appropriate because she is married. Married women are not 'dates' for weddings or anything else. Ask one of your other friends, or better yet, a girl you'd like to have a relationship with.
Fun2BMe Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 I don't think there is anything wrong with asking your married friend to escort you for the wedding. I'm single so I have done this often, even asked my sister's boyfriend once to be my date for a formal work dinner. No big deal, unless YOU'RE the celebrity and it will be a buzz why you were with a married person, otherwise who cares.
sami Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 I concur "No, it's not appropriate because she is married". It may not be acceptable to her husband though he may not talk to her about it.
littlekitty Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 Since you are single, and she is a platonic friend, I'm not sure that it's completely inappropriate, especially since you already spend time together alone. But she should definately see how her husband feels about it. I really don't see how it's any different you taking her to a wedding as apposed to a movie?
Spiderman Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 There is a woman who is a very good friend of mine. (We have known each other since we were kids!) She is married, but she and I still do things together, usually by ourselves. Her husband and I are cordial, but we've admitted we will never be friends just because we are too different. Anyway, like I said, she and I do things together, like movies and lunch and shopping etc. In a couple of months, there is a wedding that I will be attending. The couple are something of celebrities, and it will be a major social and media event. Would it be appropriate to ask my friend to be my escort for the wedding? If it was my wife going hanging out with you and I didn't like you, plutonic or not, I'd definitely put my foot down, I'd expect her to have more respect. If it isn't an issue for your friends husband, which it doesn't appear to be, I can't see there being a problem with asking her to the wedding. If there is a issue or you're doing anything inappropriate surely she'd tell you, right?
Spiderman Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 I concur "No, it's not appropriate because she is married". It may not be acceptable to her husband though he may not talk to her about it. Well if this is the case, he needs to grow a set of balls doesn't he!
littlekitty Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 Well if this is the case, he needs to grow a set of balls doesn't he! Exactly. If the husband 'appears' fine with the situation, then neither the wife or friend are doing anything wrong. If the husband isn't happy, he needs to say something. But currently he's happy with their friendship until he says otherwise!
Author Michael426 Posted July 18, 2006 Author Posted July 18, 2006 No big deal, unless YOU'RE the celebrity... No, I'm not the celebrity. But I work behind-the-scenes with both of them.
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