girly456 Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 I'm having a hard time w/ my future mother-in-law & sister-in-law respcting me. My SIL is always dising me when my mans not around. She is always taking attitude with me. Just the other day I had my shower they not only showed up 2hrs late but also no gift and told me they forgot. This was the frist time our families were meeting. Later that day my SIL came over took an invitation for our wedding, we had and said she was going to give it to someone at work. I asked if she had talked it over w/ my man. She flipped on me. first she said it was someone he knows. So I askes again "did u talk to my man". She then went on to say "why do think he's a god or something" "u don't need to answer to him" "like u r going to have all these people at u'r wedding or something, what's u'r problem." So I said something to my man. He told his sister not to give anyone that invite. I feel in the mid all the time. What do u all think. I'm as nice as I can be u know kill them w/ kindness.
vampress1 Posted July 18, 2006 Posted July 18, 2006 oooh! Tough spot! I'm feel for you... Does your fiance know how they treat you? How would you feel about having a chat with your MIL, SIL and fiance? You could plan a little dinner party and lay it all out on the table. Begin by saying that you are so pleased to be marrying your fiance and want nothing more than to gain a new family. If you don't have a sister, throw something in about how you always wanted one. Tell them that you would love to clear the slate and start over. I agree that your "kill 'em with kindness" attitude is the best way to be. In the end, it shows that you have class and they are obviously lacking in that department. You really need your fiance in on this with you. He needs to support you in any endeavor dealing with his family. If he doesn't see it or is easy to stand up for them, you may want to think about how this will effect the rest of your life. This could easily be the next 50 years of your life... can you deal with them for that long? How is it going to be when you have children? I'm thinking, nip this in the bud... pronto!!
Author girly456 Posted July 18, 2006 Author Posted July 18, 2006 Thanks for the reply.He is so on my side about everything. So nothing to worry about there. He has spoke to his Mom about somethings but she's so sensitive about things. Example: He has decides not to invite his older sister to the wedding because they don't get along. Well his Mom asked me if we were inviting her. I told her he didn't put her on his list so I don't think so.(I already know how he felt just didn't think I was my place to say anything) So she told me she didn't think that that was right. So she was going to bring it up to him. So she did. He told her no she's not invited and why. She said she understood but still had to ask.And said she wouldn't bring it up any more. Well she did, at the shower, to me. I just said it's what he want's. I went home said something to him about her asking. He then brought it up to her when he saw her the next day. Well the first thing she said is "Why does she have to tell you everything." My own Mom thinks they treat me the way they do because were a mix race couple. I think they have never had a good relationship with a man so when I treat my man with respect and I do see him as my best friend they don't quit get it. You know I'm 36 and he's 34. When you brought up kids. Well I well be a step mother of 4. The kids r a whole nother issue with them (meaning w MIL & SIL) I'll have to ask how you think on that at a later date. Wow I know alot for drama. But I do know he says he belives his wife comes before everyone else, so I know he's got my back.
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