threstofthat Posted July 17, 2006 Posted July 17, 2006 WARNING: This is a relatively long story. I just recently hooked up with a good friends younger sister and I'm not really sure how to approach things at this point. I'll try to give a bit of background and then get into it; i've had a small crush on her for the better part of a year and it's grown over the past month or two... and i'm moderately sure she's had a crush on me for 3 or 4 years, she's 18 and i'm 21, my friend (and her sister) is 21 as well. Now here's where things get kinda of weird for me in a couple aspects, she's dating a guy and has been for several months, and her sister (my friend) is engaged to another very good friend of mine (like a brother). Now to the story: We were out at the beach for the day with a bunch of friends (2 dozen people) and had been drinking the whole time, I had gotten quite a buzz and she was completely gone. Well when the day was over all of us went back to various houses/apartments to get ready to go out for the night. I wasn't feeling in the mood at this point (11pm-midnight) and she was under 21, so we both decided we'd hang out and watch a movie. It had been a solid 4 hours since we had left the beach and stopped drinking, so we were both fairly sober. We'd been flirting lightly all day and after everyone was gone for 20 minutes we started making out and things progressed from there. Nobody but the two of us know what happened, though a few seem to be suspicious. So what do I do? I'm not really looking for a relationship, but I'm not opposed to it and it's not just a physical attraction, there's a mental aspect to it. What about her boyfriend? I'm not even positive she's interested in anything beyond that night. Any advice as to what to do? I'm really lost as to how to take things from here.
Cecelius Posted July 17, 2006 Posted July 17, 2006 If you're not looking for a relationship, then I wouldn't fish for one. (1) Based on your description, she may have cheated on the b/f -- perhaps I have that wrong, but if I'm right, do you want to date a girl who will do that? (2) She's pretty closely knit into your circle -- if a relationship didn't work out, if nothing else it would make your relationship with the other people odd, for a while at least, if not downright strained. In the meantime, if you have other contact with her, if she's into you still she will make it known (but if you take her up on it, see (1) again).
norajane Posted July 17, 2006 Posted July 17, 2006 Dude, your circle of friends is waaayyyy too small. Haven't you heard not to mess around with friends and sisters of friends, ESPECIALLY if they're seeing someone else? You two got drunk and hooked up - end of story, or it should be. Actually, it should never have happened, but hopefully, she won't tell anyone, or the sh*t will hit the fan and everybody will be mad at you.
Author threstofthat Posted July 19, 2006 Author Posted July 19, 2006 Yeah, I asked a few friends that are far removed from this group and they pretty much had the same sorts of things to say. I like the girl, but I'm not looking for a relationship and I certainly don't need the drama that would be caused by starting one with this girl. I appreciate the help guys.
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