wonderingmind Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 I was with a guy for a long, long time, but it didn't work out. What do I miss? The sex. Now I'm not the type to hop in the sack with just anybody. Is it really, really bad to want just a sexual relationship with an ex?
SoleMate Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 It's not necessarily "bad" in an abstract sense, but I think it is often bad for you, because it makes it harder to move on. Sexual deprivatuon helps you focus and concentrate on improving yourself and choosing a better man to have a r/s with.
norajane Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Ever tried masturbation? It's not bad to want sex with an ex...but it is really, really bad to have sex with an ex.
thewordgirl Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Hi. i'm new to this board and like you, was in a relationship with a guy for a long time (6 years). We split up 5 months ago (i left him) and ever since he has been hassling me to have sex with him. I am now considering it as i am gagging for it and the sex was always really good (not like the relationship). Trouble is, he is seeing someone else. He won't admit it, but i KNOW he is. Also, i can't stand the bloke (hence the break up) and if it gets rid of him hounding me all the time, i may as well do it. I guess if you can handle the emotion it might resurface then i guess there is nothing wrong with it. or am i just being weak and letting him win?
norajane Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Hi. i'm new to this board and like you, was in a relationship with a guy for a long time (6 years). We split up 5 months ago (i left him) and ever since he has been hassling me to have sex with him. I am now considering it as i am gagging for it and the sex was always really good (not like the relationship). Trouble is, he is seeing someone else. He won't admit it, but i KNOW he is. Also, i can't stand the bloke (hence the break up) and if it gets rid of him hounding me all the time, i may as well do it. I guess if you can handle the emotion it might resurface then i guess there is nothing wrong with it. or am i just being weak and letting him win? What makes you think he'll stop hounding you for sex if you have sex with him? Wouldn't that make him hound you for more? Plus, if he is seeing someone, do you really want to share a guy physically? You can't stand him, but you're willing to give him sex while he's getting it somewhere else already?
alphamale Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Is it really, really bad to want just a sexual relationship with an ex? I haven't met too many females who can have sex with the same dude repeatedly over time and not develop, or re-develop, feelings for him. It's easy for many men, however.
jerbear Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 It depends on what you want and the ex wants. It would be a FWB (friend with benefits) if it is just sex. Nothing wrong with FWB if both parties agree to it. Now after this is done, make sure both of you don't get to attached and one gets feelings for another...
The slayer Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 Ever tried masturbation? It's not bad to want sex with an ex...but it is really, really bad to have sex with an ex. This puts it beautifully as so many of your posts do norajane Word girl...I don't mean to cause offence but having sex with someone you can't stand when you know he's seeing someone else just sounds a bit daft to me
Tony T Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 I was with a guy for a long, long time, but it didn't work out. What do I miss? The sex. Now I'm not the type to hop in the sack with just anybody. Is it really, really bad to want just a sexual relationship with an ex? It just seems so odd to hear from so many women that the sex was great but the guy was a butthole. I guess a man can be pretty good mechanically while being piss poor emotionally. While that's understandable, it seems rather sad. It seems not more daft to want sex with an ex than with a vibrator, given your feelings about the guy. HA!
thewordgirl Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 It is daft to have sex with a man you can't stand isn't it? But when you haven't had it for ages, well, its very tempting... Also, when they won't listen and leave you alone, sometimes you just feel like giving in. Pathetic isn't it? I've worked to hard to try to get over him and to undo it all with a night of mindblowing sex would be very stupid.
The slayer Posted July 16, 2006 Posted July 16, 2006 It is daft to have sex with a man you can't stand isn't it? But when you haven't had it for ages, well, its very tempting... Also, when they won't listen and leave you alone, sometimes you just feel like giving in. Pathetic isn't it? I've worked to hard to try to get over him and to undo it all with a night of mindblowing sex would be very stupid. It's not pathetic and I can completely understand how tempting it is. It would be a whole load better to wait for a night of even more mindblowing sex with someone you at least like!
Author wonderingmind Posted July 18, 2006 Author Posted July 18, 2006 Alrighty folks, you talked me out it. Thanks.
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